A random woman at Barnes & Noble told me that my hair was annoyingly perfect, yesterday. "Your THAT girl with the perfect hair,” she said to me. She then chuckled at how much she "sucks" at doing her own hair and admired my braid. It was a quick conversation and as someone who equally has a dry sense of humor, I appreciated her compliment.
Yet afterward it had me thinking, why do so many women do that? What's meant to be a compliment to someone else actually ends up being a "woe is me" or self-deprecating "I wish I had that/could do that/looked like that" fill in the blank. And trust me I'm guilty of doing this too. Why? Why can't we genuinely compliment other people without tearing ourselves down? It's sad and perpetuates the cycle of comparison.
Let's celebrate one another. And stop the negative internal dialogue, those thoughts are powerful. We all have strengths and God-given gifts. I can do a killer french braid but don't ask me to do a cart wheel or bake a cake for you. Anyone else feel me on this?!