My mom has always had the most wise advice. She was most on-point when she told me “men are not mind readers.” 🤯 How true is that?! But honestly, no one in our lives can read our minds.
Silence is not strong when it’s withholding one key truth: that you need help. How many reformed #peoplepleasers, #codependents, + #successfulwomen can relate to this, that we often default to silence—or worse, passive-aggressiveness—when we wish others would step up to the plate, read our minds, + offer a helping hand?! 🙋🏻♀️ How can they when we send a very clear message that we do it best + that we can do it on our own?! I know. This is a tough pill to swallow. That’s because you know exactly what mental struggle I’m speaking to. 😳
Stop it. You are not Wonder Woman. You are not made to nor are you capable of doing everything. Ask for help.
I did so last week when I told my husband we needed to hire a cleaning service. My anxiety has been through the roof as I look around at all the “things” not done or dirty in my home. Exhibits A + B, kids + dogs, destroy one space while I organize + disinfect another. Our busy schedules also don’t allow much time for cleaning, hanging with the family, cooking, self care, 2 jobs, + sleep. Something had to give. That something was cleaning. But not anymore. To my surprise my money-conscious hubby said “I agree!” And so, today, we have a cleaning service in our home. Never have I been more excited. ☺️
This may seem like a silly choice to call “brave,” but you’re not me. It’s taken work to admit what I am unable to achieve + to not see it as a personal failure. So Mama, take it from me. Ask for help because you are capable + strong—not because you’re not. 😉
Marlton, New Jersey