Do ya’ll ever talk about your relationship?
Paul & I are just reflecting on an amazing live seminar that we did together this morning about relationships; how to maximize your time together (quality vs quantity) and the importance of being really preset in that time you share together.
A lot of people think that Paul & I just naturally have an amazing relationship together, but the truth is, we just really work at it. We have our up’s and downs just like everyone else, but we work really hard at our communication, listening to each other, and leaving our ego at the door.
I use to think the same thing about some power couples that I know as well. I thought that it was just easier for some couple than others, (as if they were gifted or something) but it’s not any easier for them. The bottom line is that they just put in more time and effort at growing together, and becoming better together. BUT it takes two. I won’t say its “work” because I don’t see it like that at all, but It takes both of you wanting to move forward, grow stronger as a team, be more vulnerable, show up for each other and your relationship. It takes two to work through weaknesses and utilize each others strengths. Right now, its a real struggle for us as we are faced with me commuting for my job, which means me being gone for 4 nights every block (4 days home, 4 days away). I have a lot of friends in my line of work who have been faced with this dilemma. And the bottom line is, it’s really hard on your marriage and family and likely why many organizations move or relocate their employees as a family, not just as individuals (Military, police etc). The most important thing that we have found is having open lines of communication to talk about how we feel. And being able to express how vulnerable we each feel knowing that we have 100% support from one another free from judgement.
When you hear it out loud, it sounds easy. But if you don’t ever work on yourself through personal development or growing stronger as a couple, as soon as a rough patch comes, or difficult times challenge your regular routine…. it can feel drastically overwhelming…. have you been there? A top favourite of bo