As someone who knows what they want to do but has no idea how to get there, who’s majority of time is spent managing chronic pain, my least favorite question is “So what do you do?”. It’s generic & leaves us closed off & on the surface. It doesn’t allow the conversation to lead anywhere exciting or interesting. Guilty✋ especially with people I just meet or reconnect with. We generally respond with work-related answers - or, in my case: “That is a great question”, a response I try to pass as an actual answer... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
What if we could invite people to tell their stories, not their resumes? If we could rethink how we connect? Think about showing up with your wonder & curiosity at the forefront, with enough courage to scratch beneath the surface, even just a little bit, with what may sound like a random question, but that will unveil more about each other as people, not job titles that could apply to countless others, that will allow for real connection, big or small. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It can be interesting to know what you do for a living, that's a big part of our lives, but what about the rest of you? What about the writer, reader, yogi, teacher, hiker, artist, musician, volunteer, sibling, parent, traveler, etc… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When people ask what I do, I usually respond with the aforementioned, or, sometimes, just “When?”. We do a lot of different things, there is so much more to us than our job title, and, unfortunately, more often than not, our jobs do not tell you anything about who we are as a person. Usually, they’re just jobs. If your job is your passion, if it’s something you're excited about & feeds your soul, then great! But usually, knowing what someone does is just collecting information. And collecting information is not the same as knowing a person. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
"It’s sort of incredible, isn’t it? That there are over 7 billion people on this planet & inside each of those people is a brilliant new universe, a unique perspective. And it’s sort of sad that we feel so alone & scared though we have these galaxies to share, these big beautiful ideas & bright colors to mix with those around us".