A sexual track record tends to follow us. Some people have so much baggage tattered to their psychological and sexual self. There are so many little name tags that have never been completely torn off. It gets very difficult not to compare this man or woman you deeply love and respect to someone you slept with in the past. What happens in Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas, so to speak. Our past experiences, especially when it comes to love, sex, and children, are linked to our future marital quality. Some couples slide through major relationship transitions, while others make intentional decisions about moving through them. For women in particular, research shows more premarital sexual partners were linked with lower marital satisfaction, and conversely, the fewer premarital sexual partners, the higher women reported their marital quality. Multiple premarital sexual encounters do not doom a marriage, but can be a factor in future marital quality. Since this has, unfortunately, become so prevalent in our society, let’s talk more about dealing with your sexual past. Am going to get real here for a bit. Please note that my posts are not to offend anyone but rather to encourage us to carry out an honest self examination and get the healing needed if this is a problematic area. I wish I could say that if you’ve been sexually active, don’t worry —you can be just like a virgin again. But if I said that, I’d be lying. God will forgive you. Your spouse can accept you. But it’s far healthier to be realistic if you’ve had previous sexual experience. A recycled virgin still brings more baggage to the marriage bed than a true virgin. There’s a reason God tells us to save sex until marriage. There are consequences if we step over that line.