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●Julius in the past VS now●
Wie süß die Bilder einfach sind😍😩
Gestern hat Hertha in Hannover gewonnen🙌🎉 Ich wollte eigentlich noch so ein älteres Interview dazu schneiden,aber es hat irgendwie nicht funktioniert...🤧 Schönen Sunnday euch noch!💛 #sunnday#juliuskade#jk30#pastvsnow#berlin#herthabsc


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Time passes so fast... 11years ago vs now
5y.o vs 16y.o
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I didn't told you it was an old painting, left unfinished 5 years ago, that I improved and finished today ! 😁 Big change, isn't it?
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~Past~Now~
#throwback
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The same couple, in the same place, 30 years later ..
Deborah Oliveira ..
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Der selbe Typ aber genau 10 Jahre liegen zwischen beiden Aufnahmen 🙈 sportlich war ich schon immer😅 aber damals extrem faul und viel zu unmotiviert... bis mich der Ehrgeiz packte etwas zu ändern.... und nicht mehr das Streichholz von nebenan zu sein .
SEI DIE BESTE VERSION VON DIR ! Das Ziel ist noch weit entfernt aber mit jeden Tag komme ich diesem Ziel näher und näher !





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Oh man das ist ein bisschen peinlich aber was soll's... . Hier ist eine Gegenüberstellung von einem Bild aus der Vergangenheit und der relativen Gegenwart, naja ich hab wenigstens die Proportionen besser im Griff als damals... 😅
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The same shot i draw two years ago from now vs now, i was pretty shit in the past😂, i still have to keep going
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First one is from today and second is from 2014. I enjoy doing redraws from time to time to see how far I’ve come and how much farther I can go! 😄

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ภาพเก่าเล่าใหม่ cr. @bigeye_nat #โตแล้วทำไมไม่น่ารักเหมือนเด็ก #ทำหน้าไรของตรู #เล่าใหม่ #b4after #belatedinner #โตแล้วนะรู้ยัง #น่ายัก #น่าถีบ #pastvsnow #photo #sibling #sisters


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How well this works will depend in part on how much damage has been done. You can get away with not brushing your teeth once in a while. But if you neglect your teeth for months or years on end, you’re going to get gum disease. If, at the first onset of that disease, you suddenly decide to become the best flosser in the neighborhood and start brushing your teeth after every meal, you may be able to prevent further infection. But you’re still going to have to recover from the previous damage. So I leave you with this: The strongest marriages aren’t those without baggage, but those that have integrated their baggage into a larger story of love and grace. Remember that the Lord’s ultimate goal for your sexuality is to teach you about love. What might He desire to teach you and your spouse through your baggage? Also Communicate with your spouse. Be honest about what you need and share your struggles with each other. You are on this journey together, and you have the option of allowing these issues to separate you- but you also have every right to draw closer because of them.
I hope that blessed someone and you have points you will be taking away to implement from this.
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Like a puzzle missing a couple of pieces, compartmentalized baggage will leave you feeling a lack of peace. In fact, you may find yourself dreaming about the event or thinking about it at random times. The more you try to push it out of your life or your marriage, the more intrusive it can become. Working through baggage in counseling can take the intrusive power of sexual secrets away. The dreaded topic is no longer something you’re afraid will randomly explode out of some box, but an unpleasant circumstance that you now understand and have talked through. Although the experience has impacted your life, it no longer defines you.
4) The Lord has designed a beautiful journey for you to experience in your marriage. Since the fall of man, some baggage on the journey is a given. God desires not only to help you with your baggage but also to teach you and strengthen your marriage through it. Stop ignoring the obvious deterrents to your intimacy as you journey.
True healing occurs when sexual baggage is no longer ignored but is understood and integrated into the larger truths of who you are and who God is. Just think about all of the characters in the Bible. Why did God lay out all of their baggage in His book of history? Why do we need to know that Rahab was a prostitute and that David was an adulterer? Why did God choose to include stories of rape, murder and infidelity with the stories of His heroes?
Your life and your marriage tell a story. Your baggage is part of that story. Although it may have begun as a shameful chapter that you’d rather burn, God desires to show His love and forgiveness through the worst of it.
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3) Have you considered going to counseling?
I do believe that counseling is an important piece of handling sexual baggage. Counseling can provide a safe relationship where you can share past experiences, feelings and thoughts that may not be appropriate to talk about in other contexts. In a counseling relationship, counselors are legally bound to keep secrets. They have experience dealing with all kinds of sexual baggage and won’t be offended or shocked by what you share. Their job is not to judge you but to provide an affirming relationship based on truth.
There’s incredible power in sharing a secret you’ve felt compelled to hang on to for years. Voicing a secret to another person who won’t recoil in shock or condemn you can help shatter the cage of lies that the Enemy has constructed in the darkness.
Counseling can help you make sense of your baggage and how it impacts your marriage. As intuitive and logical as you may be in other situations, you can’t always see your baggage objectively. You can’t seem to get past the powerful barriers of anger, guilt or fear that haunt your bedroom. You can’t quite connect how an event in the past impacts your relationships today. A wise, godly counselor can help tremendously by giving you an objective understanding of what you’re experiencing.
Counseling is also very helpful in facilitating difficult conversations with your spouse. The sensitive nature of sexual baggage often keeps married couples from ever talking it through. They don’t know where to even begin or how to keep the conversation from drifting into the danger zone. A good counselor can guide those conversations toward a healing truth.
As a human being, you’re hardwired to understand and integrate the events in your life into a meaningful whole. The most painful events to deal with are those that fail to make sense. You unconsciously want to understand why the abuse or affair happened and what it means.
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1)Healing from the past. Many wives bring sexual baggage into the marriage. Perhaps at one time you were molested or promiscuous or taught that sex was a bad thing. Or it might be the way your ex use to handle you that you still hold on to and miss. Whatever the hurts, bring them to your Lord and ask for healing: “Father, release me from the faulty ways I’ve viewed sex in the past. Give me strength and peace to trust Your plan for healthy sexuality in my marriage. Help me to replace that painful perspective from my past with Your truth.”
For me the first point of call is prayer. I am sorry but that will always be my first advise as it has gotten me through somethings that I just can't explain and provided solutions
2) It’s not easy, but you’ve got to start anew, and that means letting your spouse start anew as well. Remember what we talked about in the previous section: Once you’ve asked for forgiveness, God has forgiven you. I realize it’s easy to accept it emotionally. If I knew how to keep the thoughts away, I wouldn’t be a psychologist; I’d be a magician! The things we want to repress and not think about are usually the things that pop up in our minds during the most inappropriate times.
Use this trick: As soon as you get that memory, start talking to your husband. Tell him how much you love him, how much you want to please him, what he means to you, or how aroused you feel. If the latter isn’t true, take his hands and help him please you. That way your conscious thoughts and words are focused on him instead of thinking of another.
In other words, your assignment is to relearn how to have the best sex possible with our spouse. Whenever any memories intrude on your current sex life, try to make your present sex life that much more satisfying. You get rid of the old by focusing on the new. This is a conscious choice. I’m not going to dwell on that memory. Instead, I’m going to daydream about how to make my spouse cry out with pleasure.
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Sexual baggage creates an atmosphere of distrust.
Because sexual baggage always involves sex outside of God’s intended plan (even if unwanted), it always brings up trust issues. “Will he be faithful to me?” “Can I be vulnerable with him?” or even “Can I trust my own sexuality?”
Sexual baggage also erodes trust because of the element of secrecy. Affairs, porn addiction, sexual abuse, teen pregnancy and abortion are almost always hidden. It’s not uncommon for a man or woman to hide a secret like this for decades. When the secret is finally discovered or revealed, the other person naturally wonders, If she hid this from me, what else might she be hiding? The kind of trust necessary in marital intimacy means no secrets. This does not mean that husband and wife should give a moment-by-moment account of every indiscretion. In fact, raking through the details of an infidelity can create more wounds. However, a foundation of trust means no skeletons hiding in the closet.
The distinction between having sex and actually having sexual intimacy is the level of trust that exists in the relationship. A couple can have sex when trust is fractured, but they won’t have sexual intimacy. There is a huge difference between the two!
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Sexual baggage promotes untrue assumptions.
If you want to know the difference between the work of God and the work of Satan, just look for the contrast between the truth and a lie. Jesus said that He is the Truth, while Satan is the father of lies. The work of the Enemy in your sexuality will always result in you believing lies. Whatever your sexual baggage may be, it has planted seeds of untruth in your mind and heart.
Here are a few of them:
I’m only valuable to a man if I give to him sexually.
My body and sexuality are repulsive.
Men are perverted — especially religious men.
Sex is something shameful that should be kept a secret.
Love and sex have nothing to do with each other.
You might not be aware of believing these lies, but yet they play out as you became sexually active with your spouse. Without knowing it, you begin to associate your spouse's healthy sexual desires with these types of lies.
All baggage, not just sexual abuse, results in lies. A woman who was sexually promiscuous as a teen may believe, “I’m damaged goods. God can’t fully bless my marriage.” A wife who has been cheated on may have fallen for the lie that “I can never be good enough.” The little girl whose father left for another family may grow up believing, “Men always leave. I’m destined for rejection.” The woman who was involved in porn believes that “sex is just about the body.”
Until you voice the lies, you cannot confront them with the truth.
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Some luggage perhaps was the result of personal, foolish choices, while other bags may have been thrust upon you without your knowledge or consent. Either way, ignoring their presence won’t eliminate the cost to your marriage. Your past plays a significant role in how you see the world and interact with others. Think about your religious convictions, your hobbies, your passions. They are all probably linked in some way to your childhood, your teen years or your relationship with your parents. The past is the lens through which we view the present and the future. The past also influences your attitude and reaction to sex. Did your parents display healthy affection in their marriage? Did they take the time to teach you about sex from a biblical perspective? Were you protected from sexually exploitive material, comments or contact? Were you sexually active during your dating years? What about your relationship with your sweetheart before your marriage?
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For starters, you may have flashbacks. Sexual memories are a natural phenomenon if you’ve had other lovers in your life. Unfortunately, these flashbacks can interfere with a health marital sex life. I’ve had several people confide that flashbacks were a significant problem. This is particularly true for those who had a strict upbringing and who didn’t live up to it. For women, the guilt can feel almost overwhelming at times. They’re making love to their husband when suddenly ex-boyfriend comes to mind. Since sex is such an emotional experience for women, a flashback robs them of the meaning and the moment. By the way if u making love with spouse and thinking of an ex, that is a form of cheating. You are actually emotionally and mentally cheating on your spouse. Men, on the other hand, tend to compare the physical reactions, and their flashbacks are more likely based on comparison. What if a former girlfriend knew how to touch you in a particularly satisfying way? And what if your wife is worried that she’ll never be able to compete? And when she asks you about it, she can tell that, so far, she hasn’t come close to pleasing you like that other woman used to? The pain of such a realization cuts very deeply. Men who have previous sexual experiences may also have a hard time valuing the emotional connection of married sex since they’re focused more specifically on physical pleasure.
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A sexual track record tends to follow us. Some people have so much baggage tattered to their psychological and sexual self. There are so many little name tags that have never been completely torn off. It gets very difficult not to compare this man or woman you deeply love and respect to someone you slept with in the past. What happens in Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas, so to speak. Our past experiences, especially when it comes to love, sex, and children, are linked to our future marital quality. Some couples slide through major relationship transitions, while others make intentional decisions about moving through them. For women in particular, research shows more premarital sexual partners were linked with lower marital satisfaction, and conversely, the fewer premarital sexual partners, the higher women reported their marital quality. Multiple premarital sexual encounters do not doom a marriage, but can be a factor in future marital quality. Since this has, unfortunately, become so prevalent in our society, let’s talk more about dealing with your sexual past. Am going to get real here for a bit. Please note that my posts are not to offend anyone but rather to encourage us to carry out an honest self examination and get the healing needed if this is a problematic area. I wish I could say that if you’ve been sexually active, don’t worry —you can be just like a virgin again. But if I said that, I’d be lying. God will forgive you. Your spouse can accept you. But it’s far healthier to be realistic if you’ve had previous sexual experience. A recycled virgin still brings more baggage to the marriage bed than a true virgin. There’s a reason God tells us to save sex until marriage. There are consequences if we step over that line.
#happymarriedwomen
#sexinmarriage
#pastsexualexperiences
#pastvsnow
#sexualintimacy
#sexualconnection
#whataffectssex
#sexualbaggages
#maritalsex
#unhealthypast
#baggage
#intimacy
#marriage
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#droppingunhealthysexualbaggages


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