November 17,2018 | Saturday | 1:00pm "SELF EVALUATION"
Self Evaluation: The way a person views himself/herself.
It wasn't until one day i googled "How should one self evaluate himself/herself" ( i am the type who googles whole sentences, often write whole scenarios to be very clear just in case you know:P ) that i found there wasn't any specific article about this topic. Of course there were too many articles explaining importance of evaluation for employees & how it strengthens their abilities & polishes their skills. But i wanted some "self" evaluation.
In our own eyes, how good are we as a human being?
What are our own scales & where do, on these scales, we put ourselves as a person?
I find self evaluation, an honest and critical self evaluation, very important. VERY VERY IMPORTANT for personal growth.
E.g I have a friend,one who has been a good friend to me & she gets sick while we temporarily are not on good terms & i don't ask her about her well being due to ego issues.
What would i have felt if i were been at her place? Does my temporary ego mounts higher than my friend's sickness no matter how common and small illness is? Can i call myself a good human?
Sometimes things happen. Thats okay. We,as humans,err. But we can correct ourselves by asking.
Similarly, for us evaluating others & judging them is easy while sitting back and reflecting ourselves proves far more difficult.
E.g i say "Us lrki ka complexion ktna dark hai"
Okay Lets do my evaluation.
Will i like if someone talks this behind my back? : No, Not at all
How did i sound? Educated ?: No, I sound ignorant
Does Allah like it? : No
Where do i put myself as a person for such judgements?: I feel low and embarrassed.
Do i acknowledge my mistake? Yes
Am i willing to work on it?: Definitely Yes.
Remember, self evaluation is not about blaming ourselves, its about acknowledgement & improvement.
And thats when we actually GROW.
And talking about my personal experience, a lot of bad habits start vanishing from our personality. We become more humble, more forgiving & more patient with people around us.
WE JUST BECOME MORE BEAUTIFUL. "خود کا احتساب ضروری ہے اور ایمان داری شرط ہے"