“so many times there will be so many people trying to tell you what to do. trying to set boundaries and walls around you, constructing you? concealing you? from what? from freedom? from independence? from the ability to have full autonomy of your own goddamn life? too many people who don’t pay your bills will be standing in front of you, telling you because you’re a woman you shouldn’t be too much. shouldn’t be too loud. shouldn’t be too open. shouldn’t be vulgar. shouldn’t show too much skin. shouldn’t travel the world. shouldn’t be single in your 30s. shouldn’t be childish. shouldn’t pursue non conventional careers. shouldn’t be out at night. you know what i say to that? fuck that. do as you please. it’s your life. you will not live forever so why waste the limited amount of time you have in the cage they put you in? untie your shackles and do as YOU please, brown girl.”
this post has always spoken to me in such a way that came as words of comfort. this is so important, and has such a strong message. i wish i’d heard these words sooner as i’ve always questioned my worth in certain situations. brown families set such high standards for their children which in turn makes them lack confidence, balance, and happiness. it’s sad, that us brown girls (and boys) have to fight the system by modifying every word, action, and choice we make. hopefully these words can be used more frequently, in place of the limits that are put in place regularly and unnecessarily.