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I'm SO excited about this quiz! It's been in the works behind the scenes for months, and it's designed to be soooo much more than just a fun personality quiz. It's about assessing where your brand is at and providing you with the tools, motivation, and inspiration Tj harness the power of social media. About giving creatives permission to get strategic and get the word out about what they're making. And about empowering you to love on to the next phase instead of spinning your wheels.
This is what my kitchen DOESN'T look like right now. We are, frankly, failing but banging it out but totally behind but scrambling to get ready for our first cookbook shoot this week.
I probably shouldn't admit that. But keepin' it real and all. We'll be packing our bags tonight and up at 4 AM tomorrow & heading to New York to shoot some springtastic recipes with the crazy talented @rebeccajurkevich .
I'm in that state where you're super focused, really overwhelmed, might cry, and you just know that moments like these are part of the bigger story. I share this lest anyone mistakenly think I a) know what I'm doing b) am totally zen. Negative, earth bird.
If you've ever wondered how bloggers & influencers are actually making money, what kind of money it's possible to make, how long it can take to earn six-figures as a creative, or how revenue and profits break down for businesses like mine, then this is the episode you've been waiting for. Listen now via the link in profile!
I know a lot of creatives are super uncomfortable talking about money. And even more uncomfortable admitting that they'd like to make more of it. But I think that the only way to learn about business is to also learn the numbers side. Which is why I made the choice to get vulnerable and share our numbers and business model & revenue streams past & present.
Cause here's the hard truth my mothers always told me: a business that doesn't eventually make money is just an expensive hobby. And if you stay in the red (losing money!) not only will you not be able to make a living you won't be able to make an impact with your work because you won't be able to continue. Which is why I'm such an advocate for business smarts with creative heart.
I never want to lose the heart of why I started: simply put to make life more beautiful. But in order for people to pursue their passions as a career they need to know how to market with integrity and mind the numbers. When we can get comfortable with realizing that "selling" isn't a dirty word if you're creating something worthwhile, and that "marketing" really just means "telling people about that thing you made and what problem it solves" when done with integrity, we can flourish & thrive.
Hey New Yorkers! Are you or do you know any NYC based rockstar babysitters or nannies? We're headed up to NYC on Wednesday with Eula to shoot the first half of the cookbook...and I'm gonna need some help!
If you or anyone you know is basically Mary Poppins, loves children, and has experience caring for toddlers please email email@example.com with experience, background, and references! Cause this little dumpling is gonna need a homie while we make this book happen from the 16th-23rd! As great of an assistant as she can be, I think this one is out of her wheelhouse
Happy Mother's Day to all the mamas out there! Because motherhood isn't for the faint of heart.
Reality isn't always glamorous—which isn't breaking news. We just arrived home late last night so our family is jet lagged. I managed a load of laundry today before Eula projectile vomited all over me, the couch, the rug, the floor, herself. And then it happened 3 more times. The poor baby has a tummy bug, evidently.
And we came home to discover our air conditioner is broken, my computer is dying the true death due to water damage, there's a mystery leak somewhere in our house, and the internet is down too. The house is a disaster. My hair is dirty. I'm behind on every deadline ever. And I can't do anything about any of it because my primary job right now is cuddles & watching Disney movies with a sick toddler. The world has to wait.
And the truth is I kind of feel like screaming or crying. Overwhelm and roadblocks are a part of life. If you aspire to create a life without them, you're setting yourself up for a Sisyphean ride. As the song goes, "mama said there'd be days like this". And my advice? Lean into it. Cry when you wanna cry. Scream when you wanna scream (though perhaps try to avoid frightening small children—cars are good for this!) And then shake it off, focus on what you *can* do (even the smallest thing), put one foot in front of the other, dig deep, and count your blessings. Because even though I literally want to cry silly, frustrated self-piteous tears...I can't help but be reminded of a few things by my better self:
@matthewlud and #EulalieWilla on the carousel at the Hôtel de Ville, a mandatory Parisian weekend stop on the way to the park. A day dream of what I wanted parenthood to be.
Of course it isn't all & , but if you've followed me for a minute, you know that. It's the rare midnight fight, the to do list, and so much more spilled milk. But at the end of the day, it is pretty magical. Maybe not instagrammable, but would we really want these asceptic, polished lives anyway?
My favorite moments are cackling with friends (@emma_louise_sophia I think the 3rd Tuesday of November must be declared an official holiday...), vegging out with pizza on some Netflix nonsense, reading books, shopping for food & cooking food, and sleeping in (which is defined as about 9:30 AM these days...). If I could spend my days reading, writing, cooking, carousing, and loving (which is entirely a euphemism...)—I'd be quite happy. Simple creature, I guess.
Peonies & a kitty from @lapeetchfr, the former home of Julia Child, last weekend where I met the most awesome couple that now runs a cooking school out of the house. And Lulu the cat, pictured here.
The story of the giant spoon is that Julia was in the habit of taking pictures of herself with the spoon hanging randomly in the background. So naturally we had to throw it in!
If someone had told me that I would ever spend a weekend photographing Simon Beck's property and Julia Child's haunt where she did much of her cooking and writing, I would have never believed it. It truly felt like a pilgrimage. When I first started blogging I made soufflés out of Mastering the Art of French Cooking like it was my job. This was full circle. And the people I met were better than the narrative.
Why am I smiling? Because the @rawmilkpodcast is LIIIVVEEEE! In case you didn't hear...I'm a bit excited and will just go ahead and say #sorrynotsorry for how much I'm going to shout from the rooftops that it's finally here!
It's a podcast for creatives & entrepreneurs that pulls back the Instagram curtain and teaches what it really takes to build a life and business you love. We're talking social media, slow living, creative business, money, and all the behind the scenes things—both how we succeed and how we fail—that is often left behind the Instagram filter. I'm interviewing some of the creatives that inspire me the most, like our first two guests @elizsuzann and @marte_marie_forsberg about how they got where they are today.
If you're someone who has been dying to peer behind that curtain and get some actionable advice and real talk and use that information to pursue your big goals and dreams, this podcast is for you.
It's official!!! The @rawmilkpodcast is now LIVE with not one but FOUR binge worthy episodes! Listen now via the link in profile for free creative business workshops on the airwaves! We have a two part episodes about all things Instagram for your brand, and interviews with the amazing @elizsuzann and @marte_marie_forsberg all about how they got where they are today!
The podcast is for creatives that want to make a living and a life doing what they love. And I'm proof that with enough work and time, it's possible. I spent the weekend in this beautiful village in the south of France photographing @lapeetchfr, Julia Child's old summer home in France. Something I would have not believed if you'd told me 6 years ago.
And! Not only did I launch a podcast today I also launched a brand new website for all things creative business, bethkirby.com! All of my free social media resources and my presets live there along with the podcast show notes & other goodies.
NBD, just chilling in a magical French forest with ma bébé. Okay, so this isn't usually what it looks like. But it was a lovely moment, non?
Instead it looks like traffic jams, opting out of showers waaaay more than I'd like to admit (cause in my world sleep > personal hygiene), and hours upon hours in front of a computer screen editing photos, recording for the @rawmilkpodcast , and writing emails, blog posts, free guides, the cookbook, podcast episode outlines, and my Social Media e-course. Generally with some Taylor Swift or Lady Gaga playing in the background. Cause I gotta pump myself up and zone in.
But honestly, that's where the real magic is. Because I love what I do. I prefer teaching & writing to hauling a table out into a field to make a pretend meal to photograph for social media. And more than styling a flatlay. Because while I do like to create beautiful images, I get way, way more satisfaction in my soul from teaching others what I learned the hard way whether that's photography, styling, editing, Instagram & social media, how to live slow & reclaim my time for what matters to me, or how to run a profitable creative business. Cause believe me when I say I learned that alllll the hard way!
Ahhhh! It's here!!! The @rawmilkpodcast trailer is live in iTunes! Click the link in my profile now to listen and don't forget to subscribe in iTunes so you never miss an episode when the show launches on May 8th! And if you're as excited as I am it would mean the freaking world to me if you'd let me know in the reviews on iTunes!!
I just want to take a moment to thank you. To thank you for inspiring me, supporting me, and being a part of this community. This podcast is my way to pay it forward and take what I've been teaching at workshops and retreats and put it on the airwaves for FREE!
Because it's people helping me along the way that have gotten me where I am. The guidance of friends. Transparency in business. And because I truly really believe that hard work, time, and a positive mindset can get you to and beyond your wildest dreams. I'm not a ! I was a cocktail waitress with a GED and no college degree that took a hand-me-down camera and a love of cooking and turned it into what you see today.
Today I'm recording a @rawmilkpodcast episode about an exercise I've been doing for years. I call it the "perfect day/perfect life" exercise.
First I write a paragraph or two about what the calmest, most ideal, blue skies, no limits version of my life looks like. I won't lie, these days it usually involves dropping the baby weight, lots of time with my husband (which is a total euphemism...), and having a beautiful home in the city (that's paid for!)
And then I write a minute by minute description of a typical week day in that world from the moment I wake until I fall asleep. And then I ask myself how can I reverse engineer this? What can I do to move toward this today? And what do I need to let go of? What habits, beliefs, and actions are standing between me and this dream?
I do this whenever I'm feeling anxious, stressed, panicked, overwhelmed, stuck, depressed, avoidant, or afraid. And I still feel all of those things (often all at once!) from time to time. I'm super ambitious, blindly sometimes, I'm competitive with no one but myself but oh man, am I competitive with myself! And perfectionism is such a struggle.
When I get ahead of myself my anxiety creeps in to let me know I'm taking on toooo much. And also that maybe I've lost sight of what will really make me happy, and I'm chasing illusions.
I was feeling that way today. Like the world was starting to spin too fast and it might just fling me off. So I sat down, wrote it out, and the path became clear. I can't wait to share more of how I work backwards from that dream, and what it looks like for me in this episode!