SHORT TERM PLEASURES VS LONG TERM GAINS!
@liftrunbang posted this in his stories and it's right on the money.
The trend of #selflove is important, because if you can't love yourself, your empathy typically falls short (but that's for another time), but where is it focused?
Do you define self-love as doing things that only provide short-term joy? - shopping sprees. - food outside your goal. - skipping exercise for #NETFLIX.
Once in a while, there's nothing wrong with little rewards for a job well done or when you need a break, but it comes down to who's doing it and why.
If you know it's a vice (think bad habit), then it may require changing, but humans aren't fond of change. We are built on patterns and the efficiency those patterns bring.
So how do we reframe it?
Let's start with food, but the same would apply for most situations.
Let's say, for the sake of simplicity, you're overweight and your doctor has told you your health is declining and you need to change your habits. So you start the process by tracking your daily actions and discover one of them being habitual overeating at a certain time of day. "Ok, let's start there", you may say to yourself (which if you are able to do this, it's not an easy step) and off you go. Only problem is that this habit formed because you typically have a stressful day and that was your form of "self-love" or winding down for the day.
So what do you do? Cutting it out is taking that self-love away isn't it? Doesn't have to be, there are options. The habit loop can stay since it's already ingrained you can use it to your advantage. How? - if you snack from the original container, use a smaller dish and put the original container away. - if you're making a meal, use a slightly smaller portion and put it on smaller plate. - if you eat in a rush, eat slower and intentionally enjoy the meal. - if your meal choice is high fat AND sugar (as many comfort foods are) replace one ingredient for a healthier option.
These are just a few strategy that not only continue to offer the short term relief from the day while also building the self-discipline that will provide the long term results you desire.