Embracing your dark side takes a lot of courage, love, and forgiveness. For as much as we try to stay upbeat, positive, we all have this dark side that manifests itself in lots of different ways. -
I always thought the way to deal with it was to crush her, try to forget she existed, replace her with affirmations and positivity. But today it occurred to me while working on an exercise from Banishing Your Inner Critic, she IS part of me and ALWAYS will be. So maybe it’s time to embrace her, in a new way. Our dark side will always be part of who we are but that doesn’t mean they get to run the show!!!! Nope, we CAN however, put them to good work and give them other assignments. -
My dark side, she is trainable!! Putting her in her place though, won’t be easy. Realizing she’s been trying desperately to protect me from pain, rejection, humiliation, disappointment, and from doing stupid things made me feel compassion for her, even sad that it’s time for her to go. She has been working overtime for so many years, I know she won’t go quietly, and that’s ok. I have found other purposes for her, so she can stick around but just not front and center anymore. -
I just felt like I needed to put this out here today. It was a very, very emotional exercise for me-even made me cry-which my kids will try to tell you I never do. I know I’m not the only one working through this stuff, and if this helps one person feel better or know they are not alone, it’s served it’s purpose. Love and forgiveness (including self forgiveness) always win!