Love and respect for my limitations should also be added to this mantra as well. For simply giving my physical and mental boundaries some awareness is not about fully embracing and honoring them - and that’s when the magic, I think, can really start to happen!
I often feel that women aren’t offered permission to stop, investigate, and intimately meet their limitations during pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. Because we live in a predominantly patriarchal society, progress is king and that comes before self-care, self-love, or connection. Not to mention the fact that even once a woman has her baby, she is still expected to “perform” to the same capacity she did prior to baby... and that’s just NUTS!
This mantra has helped me so much over the past year as I navigate two toddlers and now a pregnancy. It is a good thing to serve as the role model for my children that taking time to pause and observe my state, both physically and mentally, and make adjustments accordingly is the highest form of love for who I am.
Now that I have more understanding on my own daily rhythms, I can plan around that model and find more “success” in each day, be it grand or small. There is NO ONE keeping track of our productions or tasks accomplished - it’s finding joy and gratitude (when possible - hard for me with the dishes ) in each activity we participate in on a regular basis.