When I stopped worrying about what people think of the real me, I started to learn what freedom really is. The truth is, that our authentic self is still there inside us whether we want it or not. No matter what we do to cover up our flaws and insecurities, fears and passions, and “weird” interests, unpopular ideals and dreams- they don’t go away just because you change your appearance or how you take your selfies. But the thicker that outer layer is, harder for you or other people to dig deep and access the real you. And you are amazing. You are unique. You are a miracle. So why are you hiding?
Most people are scared to access the real self- because we are scared that we will be judged, we will be outcasted, or whatever fears that may come up. ———-
Being true to yourself may not make you the most popular person in the world because it is impossible to please everyone; and if you’re pleasing everyone, you are sacrificing being your authentic self unapologetically for the superficial friendships you’re creating. What I realized is that when I let that layer, I’ll call that “ego” here, or maybe you can think of it as a willing “persona” take over and let it lead your life and your interactions, your short term outcome may be that you have countless friends, but long term outcome may be that you actually don’t have many things in common with these people who you once thought were your friends. (Your outer layer is attracting those similar to the outer layer, so laws of attraction is still working its magic, but not for your buried true passions and your real self) And that shouldn’t be a surprise- people befriended the projected image of you and things you attracted were for your outer layer’s pleasing - not the real you. ——
And look- I am all about making friends. The problem here isn’t that you make too many friends. Problem occurs, especially without a strong identity foundation of who you are, you start to rely on the the opinions of those who are not even your true tribe and you drown your real self even deeper. ——
Today I love you and I choose to be minimally affected by your opinions. I feel empowered knowing who I am and being proud of my passions.