"How have you have changed after marriage, Priyanka, you have become much more healthy," an elderly acquaintance remarked to me in Jodhpur during my visit, seeing me for the first time in five years. When I was a child, I was always bemused to learn that someone meant a weight gain when saying healthy in India. Yes, at this point of time, I am very healthy in that sense (as mirrors, photographs, and my fluctuating dress sizes inform me!) - but healthier otherwise too. I feel stronger, more sure of myself, and less afraid to stand my ground and assert myself. If I have gained weight, I have gained so much else too. And while I am not necessarily in love with every kilo I have gained and would happily shed it when I can, I cannot regret the acquiring of surplus of so much else that I never had earlier: confidence and self-belief. Of course, I will not stop looking at pictures of my thin days and dearly yearn for that once visible clavicle or defined cheekbones. But then I will remember how unkind and unloving I was towards my body then - and know that I can no longer tread that path anymore, choosing one of compassion and self love instead. Here, a mirror selfie in Bangalore palace, which was full of rooms and corridors filled with mirrors and it was all I could do to not take a picture in every mirror I met!