I'd like to share an unrelated art moment today. Lately, I've been writing a book (in my head) titled, "I Wish Someone Had Told Me". When I entered motherhood 14 years ago, it was a cake walk. I had 2 unbelievably EASY babies and my ex and I used to think it was because we were doing everything right and we were awesome. We couldn't understand others parenting struggles or why other kids had tantrums, surely those parents were "doing something wrong". NOW, I understand that no, those parents were probably awesome too, they just got handed the bumpy road and we didn't. Now I know better. I feel incredibly blessed to have these 2 new babies, which I never thought I'd get. I wouldn't change a thing. However, navigating a toddler racing into the terrible twos and having a 2 month old (not to mention the aforementioned 2 teens) all at the same time makes me feel like I wish someone would have told me how to do it all. How to meet the needs of all these very different ages. Mainly, (because it's pretty much all I do all day) how do you soothe a 2 month old to sleep for his nap with a tantrum throwing toddler at your feet (literally)? What do you do when you've spent the last 20 minutes trying to get the baby to sleep while your toddler is standing on the window sill, only to be woken up, and have to start all over again? (Did I mention the baby takes 6 naps a day?) How can you get a 2 year old to understand that if the baby sleeps, he can finally get mommy to play? When the teens are trying to tell you about their day, and the babies interrupt in one way or another, what do you do? I spend so much of my day trying to get everyone's needs meet, but failing miserably and feeling guilty because it just cant be helped right now. Luckily, there are more than enough funny, sweet, loveable moments to balance it all out. Luckily my teens are very uderstanding and incredibly helpful. Luckily the 2 year old goes to bed early and I can focus on just the one baby. Luckily it all will be fleeting, and we'll be onto easier times. But I wish someone had told me.
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