As there are different depths to love, I believe there are different depths to heartbreak. It only makes sense that the shallowest of loves leaves the shallowest of cracks, while the deepest of loves causes our hearts to undergo a sort of shattering.
The heartbreak I'm speaking of in particular is of the deepest kind -- the kind that only really happens once in a lifetime.
I say only once in a lifetime because once we experience such heartbreak, we are never again the same. We become different people, scarred and nerve-damaged. We begin to look at life and love through a different shade of glass.
We will never have our hearts broken in exactly the same manner, as we have lost the innocence that allowed for such vulnerability in the first place.
When you completely give your heart over to someone -- body and soul -- and the relationship doesn't work out, you lose that heart. It doesn't matter if things didn't work out because of them or because you yourself screwed up. It doesn't even matter if there's no one to blame.
If you were certain that you would spend your lives together and have to face the reality that the future you have been looking forward to for so long has just been taken away from you, it's going to hurt. A lot.
Sad to say, it's not a pain that goes away quickly. It takes time to heal -- and you will most definitely need some healing. More importantly, you're going to need some fixing. Someone is going to need to take the pieces of you lying sprawled out across the ground, and put you back together.
The question is: Who?
The answer is simple. Only one of three people in the world can fix you when you're dealing with the aftermath of a broken heart. Either someone new who has yet to break your heart, that someone who did break your heart, or you -- the one who had his or her heart broken.
Each one of those three options has its benefits, but also tradeoffs. Finding someone new to love is usually our go-to. Most people very strongly believe that finding a new love to take the place of the old one is the best way to go. And for a good reason -- because it works.