For my lovely single friends: I know it seems like everyone is in a relationship, getting engaged, or getting married, but that’s because people only post the best moments of their lives on social media. In actuality, you probably have a lot more single friends than ones in happy relationships. Though you feel alone, you aren’t. No one is going to post a lonely pic of themselves eating ramen at Mitsuwa while contemplating what is wrong with them and why they keep going through break ups. No one is going to shout from the rooftops, “Look at me! I’m so single! On bad days I cry til I can’t breathe and on good days I eat ice cream and delete pics of my ex!” We feel alone in our pain, unless we seek out community. Breakups suck. I know. It feels like your heart is being ripped in two and you’ll never be whole again and you’re bleeding in a thousand ways every second and your whole body and heart hurts. Community helped me get through my last break up. I surrounded myself with my family and friends and daily phone calls filled with affirmation (my parents really are the absolute best), started going back to church after about 10 years away from it, and felt the love of God through people and life affirming messages. I heard stories of people going through the same thing I was in small group and we prayed for each other intentionally. I also started working towards a big goal that was just for me, in my professional life. Replace the emptiness you feel with other things that bring you joy: reading, BEING OUTSIDE (sun is seriously healing), connecting with nature, biking really fast down a big hill (wear your helmet though, let’s not get too crazy here) - whatever it is, find your joy APART from a romantic partner. To me, that’s crucial to actually healing and finding your own self worth. It’s not easy and I’m still on this journey... but it gets better a little bit, day by day.
In conclusion, here is a pic of me and my sis rocking our bad ass single lady selves, so you know you aren’t alone in your singleness. Look at us! We are so cool. By transverse property, being single is cool.
Love and hugs!
#singlesawarenessday #itsokay #beingsingle #itscool