The dissolution of eye contact
As I sat in the waiting room at my daughter’s dance class watching her on their 28” monitor, I glanced over to the benches to see the other parents reaction to the new dance moves. Unfortunately, I'm not sure any of them witnessed it. “Smurf face” I call it. The blue light omitting from their cell phones lighting up their entire face. Total disconnect! I did what any normal person would do… I yelled out “so how is everybody doing today?” The first time I connected eyes among the 15 people present in that waiting room, were daggers. Disgusted looks followed and the air in the room felt heavy and uncomfortable. Not for me of course. My eyes darted across the room as they would on a laptop full of pop up ads, trying to gauge everyone's reaction. No one responded. People were actually pretending that they didn't hear me. Going out of their way to avoid contact, conversation an interaction.
I see this more and more and I'm guilty of it at times. However, I'm becoming more consciously aware of how harmful this can be to our relationships, friendships, and overall social experience. I see kids walking around, crossing the street without looking, faces buried in their phones swiping candy bombs and Swedish Fish. Couples out to dinner completely disengaged from each other. Car accidents are piling up because we have adopted a new addiction. The constant need to pick up our phones regardless if it means compromising our safety. We wake up in the morning and before we roll over to kiss our loved ones, we check Facebook and Instagram…
The average American spends more than five hours per day on mobile devices and computers. An additional four and a half hours is spent in front of the television. This leaves us very little time to share our thoughts and experiences with those who are close to us. Think about it next time you pick up that phone or tablet. I was once told but dying woman, her only regret was wasted time. Not just with her loved ones but the world in general. We need to consider this before we end up as society depicted an episode of Black Mirror. Moderation is key.
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