The relationship between biological mama and myself has been non-existent for 5 years; however neither of us have fought over our roles and with the kids which is great! Our situation is preferable for me, which isn’t the greatest way of handling things on my part - but I am shit scared of confrontation and prefer communication of the kids be left to the parents. I understand my role in the kids lives and do not try to overstep mark with bio mama HOWEVER that’s my thoughts of what I understand to be the boundaries, they could be completely different for her but I do care about her feelings in this situation....provided she is doing her part for the kids. I have had times of being completely disappointed by her, she has been homeless on and off over the years where we used to have 50/50 care to now having the kids full-time to provide them with a stable home with routine. My partner and I have adjusted to the situations and so have the kids but I wished we had 50/50 as the kids miss their mum which I totally understand. My eldest stepson is so used to being with us now that he doesn’t want the 50/50 situation anymore - I’ve slowly reintroduced him seeing his mum at least once a fortnight or to go out for dinner weekly. Youngest stepson misses her heaps and asks for her on weekends, he is not used to seeing her sporadically when she’s able to see him - but it’s all we can give them at the moment. These are just some of the dynamics I have to try work through.