One thing I wish people let me do is feel the feelings towards my body. ♀️ And it took me some time to understand that I should be that way towards others too, I trust you how you feel about your own body and I will honour your feelings and if you need, I’ll offer my advice or opinion. I don’t even care what size or shape you are, if you say you’re uncomfortable and something needs to change - work on it. My only precaution will be to be gentle on yourself and make sure you’re not hurting yourself with FAD diets and misinformed nutrition/fitness advice.
I find that my whole life I was never allowed to express how I feel about myself. Starting with family, where everyone, literally, is considered overweight and they struggle with those issues, so naturally my entire childhood I was told “no matter what you do you will be like us, so you need to worry ahead of time”. Inducing fear of gaining weight into a child’s mind can’t be good, but I also understand where my parents came from (mom had to make her own clothes during Soviet Union times so they fit properly, and made them for other family members too), so she was worried I’d have hard time picking clothes, having health issues with back and legs, living my life in general. And eventually I did gain weight, but not because of my family’s genes, but because I went through hormonal treatment. I’ve never in my life was allowed to go to PE class or do any kinds of physical activity because I was mistakenly diagnosed with kidney disease and being treated for it for about 14 years (yeah, another fucked up story LOL). So here I was, getting into my late teens, with extra weight, most of which was fat tissue as I had no muscle because I never ever moved much, and I had to reshape my body with changing the way I eat and fitness.
I ended up losing about 20 lbs over 2 years, and all that changed was that now people were telling me how LUCKY I am to have my body, and how DARE I am to complain about it. Well guess what?
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