See that kid in the blue and yellow uniform? He's mine.
He's played lacrosse for 6 years and cried for the first 2 of them. ---
Then he spent 2 more years kind of just standing on the field praying the ball and the opposing team chasing after the ball would steer clear of him.
We had many conversations about if he wanted to play....he always said yes, but struggled with self-confidence. He struggled at times catching and throwing the ball, maybe more so than some of his teammates, and he didn't think he was good enough. He was afraid of letting his teammates down when they needed him during a game. He was so afraid of failure, it paralyzed him.
So we focused on building his self-esteem. Proving to him his self-worth on and off the field. We then got him practicing more on his own, with us, signed him up for extra camps and clinics to improve his skills and give him more on the field confidence. ---
Today you would never know how much he has struggled (and sometimes still does). And that's really my point....you never know what someone is going thru, what inner demons they might be fighting because most don't advertise it.
So be kind. And if you suspect someone is struggling, show compassion.