Meg Kamp

When that child is screaming that they want to go outside but they haven’t cleaned their room or they are slamming doors and toys, they maybe in need of correction.

Before we engage with them, it needs to be on terms where both parents and children are able to think and speak clearly. Once this child has calmed the mom sits with them, we can continue a short two-way conversation with the goals:
1) to allow them to feel heard, and
2) resolve the issue at hand.

This is how this played out in my house last week with one of my older children.

Kiddo: I wanted to go to the library.
Mom: I am sorry, you are not dressed for the library.
Kiddo: Fine! You never let me do anything I want! I guess I just won’t be able to read any books today and then I will be behind in school. Just because you won’t let me read anything!
Mom: I hear you, Kiddo, and your words are very loud. I am going to sit here with you until you are calm and ready to speak with respect.
Kiddo: But Mommmmm!
Mom: Calm and with respect
Kiddo: I am readdddddddyyyyy!
Mom: Calm and with respect. (Soft tone)
Kiddo: (4 minutes later) okay, I am ready. Sorry for yelling. I know I am not dressed right but I don’t have anything to read and I really wanted something for this afternoon.
Mom: Sure! I understand that you want to read a new book. After that response earlier, I can’t take you to the library but let’s take a look together on the bookcase.
Kiddo: Yes, ma’am. (Disappointment but no disrespect.)

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@claryrm

@meghowdykamp I need someone constantly in my ear whispering “calm momma voice”

@meghowdykamp

@kydonsegal Hey thanks! Parenting Life is the best!

@meghowdykamp

@ashleynicolegraham_ A mom who has learned a lot the hard way! 🙄🤣 You are taking care of a tons of babies this year. I am looking forward to your posts!

@meghowdykamp

Thanks Renee! You know how this goes!

@meghowdykamp

@dani_smith3 Hi Dani! Thanks! Living alongside great mommas like yourself, is so encouraging and helps us keep going in raising these babies!

@kydonsegal

Ah Parenting Life! 😃 👍 There are a lot of things that we don't quite understand before we become parents but all become crystal clear when we do. Great posts. 👏 Love to see more! 👍

@dani_smith3

I admire your patience and endurance. I need more of that. ❤️

@ashleynicolegraham_

You are such a good mom!!

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