Holy guacamole is this ever a tough one! 😊 To be good at what you do, you have to care about it and ideally be passionate, essentially feel it in your bones. And yet with passion comes stress and sometimes a loss of perspective—about yourself, your co-workers, friends and family, the work, and life more broadly.
So how does one achieve that oh-so-fine-line balance between giving a f and realizing a zen-like detachment at the same time? For me, it’s been a relentless pursuit and while I still fail at it many days, I must say the fight to walk the tightrope effectively is a worthy endeavor and does pay off.
I recently wrote about an instance where several people told me I had a calming, confident, and determined presence, which completely/totally/utterly shocked me as no one would have said that just a few years ago. I thought that being a passionate fruitcake was so core to who I was that achieving a more calm, detached me was an impossible thing to cultivate. And yet, it hasn’t been at all—in fact, I’d say that finding this rare and fleeting space has bolstered my professional effectiveness beyond measure.
This probably sounds weird, but it sort of seems analogous to the “If you love someone or something, set it free. If it was really yours in the first place it will come back to you” dynamic. There’s so much power to be found by realizing your state of passionate detachment—being able to see projects going wrong in a quiet, confident way, watching organization and resource changes with logical and collaborative problem solving, and being open to enabling your foils to be successful.
Has anyone else struggled with this endless challenge? If you have and/or found any magic strategies for navigating it effectively, I hope you’ll share.