One thing I struggle with is setting (and upholding!) boundaries with people. I grew up in an environment that did not allow me to have boundaries. Boundaries were considered rude, disrespectful, sassy, and overreacting.
My mental health has not been in a good place for a few weeks. I've been lashing out at people, being angry, and very irritable. So, I decided to take space from friends and obligations to give my self the space to figure out what was REALLY going on.
I asked for space from a friend and they responded by questioning if it was because I was mad at them or if they did something or if I was just stressed. I calmly explained that I don't know what's going on and need time to figure it out. They came back with a message attacking me for bring cruel for not telling them what they did wrong especially so close to their wedding (4 months). They lashed out at me instead of supporting my request for space. Long story short, I'm taking the space I need.
It's okay to ask for what you need. It's not okay for friends or family to not support you through that. Six months ago, I would have NEVER asked for space. I would have put my mental health on the back burner and chosen my friends feelings and needs far above my own, regardless of how much I was struggling. Six months ago, I would have given in and had a discussion right away like she requested.
I'm slowly learning how to set boundaries and especially to uphold them.
Boundaries. Are. HEALTHY!! But I'm not who I was 6 months ago. I care deeply about others feelings and thoughts and can't stand the thought of hurting others. But I also care deeply about my own thoughts and feelings for the first time in years.
Last time, I wouldn't have set this boundary.
This time, I will because I choose me. ❤
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