However close you are, YOU cannot be responsible for anothers happiness. .
We're all on our own journey and our experience of life is unique to us.
Despite our best intentions, our nurturing ways, our need to love them better, we can not stop the struggle for those we love the most.
We are all on our own path and our vision, views, plans, or ideals are not those of the person we love.
As parents we're used to telling our children what to do - fixing our children just by being there to hug and kiss them better.
But as our children grow we're no longer able to fix their pain.
It is their life to live and if we just stop trying to tell them, they will step up and find their best way to fix things- to grow.
We can't fix our siblings, our parents or our friends either.
This has been such a tough lesson for me. As a parent, even more so a single parent, you feel completely, solely responsible.
I still struggle.
I was sure i could help. It's so hard to watch someone close in pain and not do anything to stop it. .
What we can do is to be there so that they are not alone. Support them.
We can hear them, hold them and love them - if they want us to. .
Staying connected through difficult times is our greatest challenge.
Allowing others to experience the lesson's they must learn without our advice, or knowing best, is vital if we want to see them develop into the people we're proud of. .
Build long term relationships that last - it's not about what you want. It's what's right for both of you 💕