#IDefineMe

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#idefineme#ディファイン#カラコン#shuuemura#PR#シュウウエムラ#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい#コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい#チーク#アイシャドウ#カラコンレポ#メイク#weareone#girlpower#love#IDefineMe#bodypositive#quoteoftheday#quotes#empower#strongwomen

Hashtags #IDefineMe for Instagram

after it rains, it glows ⚡️



(Incase you haven’t already noticed I found new way to edit my photos and I’m in love 😍)


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Apparently I deleted my post when I went to edit 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 To continue my current mood towards the medical industry 👎🏻😂🤷🏼‍♀️ I had a routine doctors appointment this week. New nurse, she weighs me. She says woah 175 you are overweight you better get a handle on that. She starts to lecture me about people with RA need to be really mindful of weight because of what it dose too....man I shut her down hard and fast! I have weighed between 172-176 for almost a year now! The ONLY thing saying I am overweight is the outdated BMI chart. And if she bothered with continued education she would know that you are not to use the BMI chart as a stand alone measurement anymore. I asked her to please start using her eyes along with her charts before she started spouting off medical advice! She huffed out of the room and I didn’t see her again 😂😂😂 My doctor who is wonderful and has never been concerned about my weight. I am sure the nurse will enjoy her education from her boss.

People who suffer autoimmune diseases are already at higher risks for mental illnesses, boldly stating a woman is fat and she needs to loose weight upon all other things she is coping with could fuck somebody up for years if not life.
I see a specialist this nurse is not a generic nurse she SHOULD be aware of how to function within her work space. She is in the service industry, she is required to provide a service without bias or judgment. But she did both.
Please folks don’t let the stupid numbers define you! They are just numbers not your value or worth. 💖💖 **steps off soapbox** #randomassyogapicsaturday #idefineme @themuscleboundyogi @8rocknrollyogi8


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On our recent trip to @NatGeo headquarters we discovered @NatGeoMag special issue presenting a colour wheel of humanity, showing how arbitrary racial classification is & how we teach children to think in terms of binary colour palette #myriadhumancolours #IDefineMe


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^ There’s more diversity in #Africa than on all the other continents combined #diversity #race #ethnicity #language #IDefineMe @NatGeoMag


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#FBF to some more #EssenceFestival2018 adventures! 💁🏾‍♀️ I was just minding my business walking around the Beauty & Style Expo when a lovely soul asked me if I’d be willing to walk in a fashion show coming up on stage. 🙋🏾‍♀️ Sure! Sounds like fun let’s do it, I said. Don’t miss this...🗣️ I manifested this! God was showing me favor! How? Not even 2 hours earlier @tiakirby and I were speaking over ourselves and each other, “Next year we will be on this stage, WORKING! In Jesus name”, we said, “We touch and agree AMEN!” WE SAID! Coincidence? There are none. God used this moment to show me that I don’t have control over this. He does what He wants WHEN He wants. #ThanksForTheReminderJesus #YouRightYouRight 👌🏾😍🙌🏾🙏🏾 thanks for the opportunity @lisanicolecloud! Pray this prayer 🙏🏾: Gon’ head and blow my mind with your plans oh God...prepare me to be the woman you’ve destined me to BE! Amen! PS: Would have been clutch to have a strapless bra for the walk but ah well 🤷🏾‍♀️. Check out my Essence ‘18 highlight to see me walk and hold my own with these 20yr olds. 😜 Oh yeah! We’ll be talking about manifesting and affirming at the @idefinemetour THIS YEAR and it’s about to be on a whole nutha level. We’re focused on Power & Wellness and bringing along @kelawalker, @cldwheeler and @takecare_sis_withdrg! ❤️❤️❤️ Link in my bio to put down your deposits! The countdown starts now before we close registration! ⏱️ #IDM2018 #WomensRetreat #LosCabos #FinishTheYearStrong .
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#idefinemetour #idefineme #retreat #mexico #powerandwellness #wellnessretreat


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💌💌 A love letter to my Self💌💌 I’ve been thinking a lot lately about freedom. What it means to be free....more specifically of how that looks and feels like for me.
I’m in an interesting place and space in my life in that I’m occupying 2 different worlds.
One world where I feel the need to be polite, nice, politically correct in what I say, fitting into a tidy box of how a “woman” “wife” “entrepreneur” or “believer” should be and present themselves to the world.
On the other hand there is a larger part of me that doesn’t wish to participate in that world. But wishes to create a world where my true self fits. I can be free to be the wild woman that I truly am. #unbothered by the opinions of anyone, #uninterested in the traps of this system to “Be somebody” or achieve some status or level of success and then display it on SM for validation or agreement. Or to show myself “approved” or “woke” or “conscious”. I already AM. I am successful in BEing. I Am approved because I AM.
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Freedom is having choices. That is the gift from our Creator. Freedom to define what love, friendship, success is for you. Freedom to create. Freedom to destroy. Freedom to choose your path and know that you are supported as you walk in it.
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I can feel the shift that is coming. The death of the woman I have been. The person who tried to fit in a box that doesn’t even come close to trying to hold me. I’m too broad, to wild, too expansive. #radicalselflove is the medicine that is curing me of ALL the lies I’ve told myself & accepted from others that has kept me small and confined to this place/space. There is NOTHING I cannot do or be or have. I KNOW that. I’m no longer entertaining energy that attempts to get me to believe anything contrary to what my soul already knows. #rebelsoulwoman #radicalselflove #oneofakindselflove #wildwoman #idefineme #youdontknowthisnewme #iputmypiecesbackdifferently #ilovedeep #soulsofwomenspeak #youalwayshaveachoice


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If you retain nothing else, always remember the most important rule of beauty, which is: who cares?


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What a great memory to wake up to! Let's all have a great day! #idefineme #plottwist


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Follow through Friday - continue one's movement. Finish the blog, finish that letter,finish that job application, finish the business plan, finish the book, finish the budget plan, finish decorating, finish decluttering, finish the outline, finish what you started.. Follow through on your purpose and dreams. Happy Friday #happyfriday #movement #idefineme #vulnerability #tranformation #begoodtopeople #shareyoursmile #love #positivevibesonly #grateful #grace #realationship #transparent #curvesarebeautiful #mytruth #nomoreguilt #prosperity #MissBE #community #selfreflection #heartbeats #myheartmatters


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Check out idfine.net to see all of our collections and get inspired #idfinejewelry ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#rings #gold #silver #style #moon #unicorn #bracelet #ring #capella #idfine #jewelry #identitybychoice #youdefineyou #idefineme


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throwback but not that far back because I love these people and I miss riding horses 😇


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I was not a very happy kid growing up. I never smiled for pictures and always felt like there was something wrong with me so to smile meant that people would think I'm happy, and I did not feel right lying to them. I never felt true happiness until college when I found out what was 'wrong' with me. I came to realize that I never felt right because I'm transgender and was born in the wrong body. That moment of realization and finding out there was a whole group of people out there like me was very freeing. The trans community helped suppress my suicidal thoughts and made me realize that life is worth living and there's nothing wrong with me at all. My life was validated with all the support I've received from friends that soon became family. Since then, I've gone though a lot of physical changes and I've never been happier in my life. It is rare to find me not smiling in life or in pictures now because that smile now truly shows everyone that I'm happy and loving life. -Xiaomin (Depression, Anxiety)
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#thisiswhatmentalillnesslookslike #mentalhealth #mentalillness #mentalhealthmonth #stigmafree #i #define #me #idefineme #photoproject #movement #nostigma #bravery #strength #stories #people #redefine #reclaim #passion #minoritymentalhealth #minoritymentalhealthmonth #trans #transisbeautiful #transpride #ftm #minoritymentalhealthmonth #asian #asianamerican #asianbeauty #depression #anxiety


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#Repost @rockylinshen
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This morning got to workout at @thetrainingroomutah was awesome. I’m definitely coming back for more. Staying healthy is a choice. #yourmoments #idefineme #healthylifestyle #goalsetting #utahfitfam #utahfitspo #thetrainingroomutah #leanmuscle #gettingswole


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This morning got to workout at @thetrainingroomutah was awesome. I’m definitely coming back for more. Staying healthy is a choice. #yourmoments #idefineme #healthylifestyle #goalsetting #utahfitfam #utahfitspo #thetrainingroomutah #leanmuscle #gettingswole


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First day back home! I tried sleeping in and it didn’t really work that well. Has anyone ever come home from a vacation and it’s just feels so weird being back in your own house?


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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ の
ヴィヴィット スタイルをつけてみたよ👀
shu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんの
オススメアイテムでピンクのカラーメイクに挑戦💗
新鮮じゃない😳!?

いつもと違った雰囲気になれた💕
こないだやってもらったシックメイクとは
全然違った感じ🤔
いろんなメイクやってみよーっと💜

クリーミー アイシャドー<P101>
プレスド アイシャドー<M189 A>
ブローアンリミテッド<バブリシャスパープル>
ルージュ アンリミテッド<PK325>
チーク グローオン<M330>

@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura
#PR
#ディファイン #idefineme #idefinevivid #ヴィヴィットスタイル
#shuuemura #シュウウエムラ
#メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい 
#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい

http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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アキュビューディファイン®️︎のナチュラル シャイン®️︎をつけて、シュウ ウエムラのコスメでセルフメイクしたよ。
オレンジのカラーライン🍊可愛い
*シャドウ→プレスド アイシャドー
ソフトコーラル 121
*アイライナー→ウォーターペイントインク
ハニーオレンジ
*チーク→グローオンM
ソフトピンク336
*リップ→ルージュ アンリミテッド
BG931

@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura

#PR
#ディファイン
#ナチュラルシャイン
#idefineme #idefineshine
#shuuemura #カラコン


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前髪切って
ベビーバンクにしたけど
意外と普通なので
もっとばっさり行こうか悩み中。

コンタクトはアキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ ヴィヴィッド スタイル
メイクはshu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんのおすすめアイテム使ってみました。
使うアイテムで雰囲気が変わると
気分も変わるよー、
るるんるん!♩笑

クリーミー アイシャドー<P101>
プレスド アイシャドー<M189 A>
ブローアンリミテッド<バブリシャスパープル>
ルージュ アンリミテッド<PK325>
チーク グローオン<M330>

@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura
#PR
#ディファイン #idefineme #idefinevivid #ヴィヴィットスタイル
#shuuemura #シュウウエムラ
#メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい
#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい

http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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シュウ ウエムラさんのコスメとアキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ のヴィヴィッド スタイルを着けてメイクしてみたよ~ @acuvue_jp
@shuuemura

#ディファイン
#ヴィヴィッドスタイル
#idefineme
#idefinevivid
#shuuemura
#カラコン


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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ のナチュラル シャイン®️
つけてみたよー!!
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この前のアキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント シックTMよりナチュラルですごくお気に入り👀✨ .
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shu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんのおすすめアイテムで、セルフメイクをしてみたよ💄 .
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使ったコスメの詳細↓
アイシャドウ:プレスド アイシャドー<P121>
アイライナー:ウォーターペイント:インク<ハニーオレンジ>
リップ:ルージュ アンリミテッド<BG931>
チーク:チーク グローオン<M336>

@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura
#PR
#ディファイン
#idefineme
#idefineshine
#ナチュラルシャイン
#shuuemura #シュウウエムラ
#メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ #化粧 #ナチュラル #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい #メイク好きな人と繋がりたい
http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ のコンタクトをつけてメイクしてみました👀✨コンタクトはアキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント スウィートTMで、シャドウ(M136とM139)、チーク(CM320)、リップ(WN225)は全てshu uemuraです!うるんだ印象になって、ピンクのメイクも似合う気がする💆🏻‍♀️💗 @acuvue_jp
@shuuemura

#PR
#ディファイン
#ラディアントスウィート
#idefineme
#idefinesweet
#shuuemura
#カラコン


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これはアキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ のアクセント スタイルをつけてます👀shu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんオススメコスメでのセルフメイク😌
この前アップしたシックなメイクとはまた雰囲気が違っていい感じ♡ @acuvue_jp
@shuuemura

#ディファイン
#アクセントスタイル
#idefineme
#idefineaccent
#shuuemura
#カラコン


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気分がパッと明るくなるカラーメイク🌿
ピンクやパープルを使ってかわいらしくしてみました◎
コンタクトは、ナチュラルだけど目元が映えるアキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ のラディアント スウィートTMで✨

@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura


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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ をつけてみました❤️
shu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんのおすすめアイテムで、セルフメイク💄
この前のやってもらったメイクとは、また雰囲気が違って、お気に入り❤️
黄色いアイシャドウがいい感じだなぁ。夏にぴったり!
コンタクト
アキュビュー®️ディファイン®️ ラディアント ブライトTM

アイシャドウ
ミディアムブラウン875
イエロー330A
チーク
ミディアムピーチ550
リップ
ルージュアンリミテッドCR321 @acuvue_jp
@shuuemura

#PR
#ディファイン
#ラディアントブライト
#idefineme #idefinebright
#shuuemura #カラコン


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初めてつけてみたカラコン👀✨
アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ アクセント スタイルだよ!
@acuvue_jp
メイクも普段のメイクとは変えていて、
shu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんが
おすすめしてくれたアイテムでメイクしてみたよ💄@shuuemura

この前のシックメイクとはまた違った雰囲気に見えて、こちらもお気に入り☺️ [EYE]
クリーミー アイシャドー<P301>
プレスド アイシャドー<M569>
ブローアンリミテッド<スカイハイブルー> [LIP]
ルージュ アンリミテッド<BG923> [BLUSH]
チーク グローオン<CM750>

#PR
#ディファイン #アクセントスタイル
#idefineme
#idefineaccent
#shuuemura
#シュウウエムラ
#メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい
#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい

http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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Sometimes people have a hard time understanding you. You can only explain yourself so many times to them before you realize it’s a waste of time. Know your worth and time. #yourmoments #idefineme #yourvalue #beyou #behappy #me #onlyyou


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Yeah yeah I know I have a little “insta-narcissist” in me..... you may not care what I be eating, drinking, smoking, going or doing..... but I’m gonna tell you ‘neways 😂😆😂My #instagram is all #cannabis #food #ocean #music #family #novascotia All the things that are important to me! #babygreens #seasonedchicken #seseameseeds #gingersesame #ginger #idefineme #scotiankitty #DoYou #halifax


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They said I couldn't sustain my work ethic when I turned 40. I want to hear what they have to say now that I'm #50. 💪
I define me. #hustleharder 👊🏽


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I am a lesbian. I am a witch. I am a ginger. I am me. I will not apologize for who I am. I will not let anybody make me feel bad for who I am. If you don’t like who I am, the exit is right there. #notashamed #witchesofinstagram #lesbiansofinstgram #lesbainwitch #youdonotdefineme #idefineme #iamme sorry...bad day with a “friend”


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Believing in oneself is profoundly powerful. We get to witness incredible shifts in the way a client feels when they explore, remember or discover their unique and innate or cultivated strengths. We are grateful and incredibly privileged to see this unfold.


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今日は「アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ ラディアント チャームTM」をつけてみたよ❤️
レンズに合わせて、shu uemuraのアイテムでセルフメイクも💄
いつもと全然違った雰囲気になるよね💭💋 新鮮❤️
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🌼ITEMS
・アキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント チャームTM
・シュウ ウエムラ クリーミー アイシャドー<P301>
・シュウ ウエムラ プレスド アイシャドー<M569>
・シュウ ウエムラ ブローアンリミテッド<ミスティックグリーン>
・シュウ ウエムラ ルージュ アンリミテッド<BG923>
・シュウ ウエムラ チーク グローオン<CM750>

Thank you @acuvue_jp @shuuemura
#PR #ディファイン #ラディアントチャーム #idefinecharm
#idefineme #shuuemura #シュウウエムラ
#メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい
#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい

http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ
ラディアント スウィートTMをつけてみました👀
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shu uemura のメイクアップアーティストさんの
おすすめアイテムでセルフメイクをしてみましたっ
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いつもと雰囲気が違くてお気に入り♡♡ .
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EYE
アキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント スウィートTM
シュウウエムラ ブレスドアイシャドウ M136 M139
シュウウエムラ ブローアンリミテッド スパイス アップ ピンク
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シュウウエムラ チークグローオン CM320
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シュウウエムラ ルージュアンリミテッド WN225
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http://acuvue.jp/df_event/
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@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura
#PR #ディファイン #idefineme #idefinesweet
#ラディアントスウィート #shuuemura #シュウウエムラ #メイク #カラコン
#カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい
#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい


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Busy dealing with this now... and it's one of the hardest bridges i have EVER tried to cross.
People always say... oh but she's your blood... NO! Being family doesn't condone hurtful, cruel and disrespectful behaviour especially when it has happened again and again and again. Cutting that cord was the hardest and sometimes i do want to go back but for my own sanity and self worth i wont.

We all need to stop allowing people to hurt us and rewarding bad behaviour. I know i tried my best and i have really tried, my conscience is clear... all i have shown this person over the years is that i will accept her bad behaviour.
You need to remove toxic people and stop accepting people, family or not,treating you like a PAPER PLATE when you are FINE CHINA

Learn to define yourself! Go on... be vain and LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
#IDefineMe #VainQueen #BeASurvivor #NotAVictim


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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ ラディアント シックTMに続き

アキュビューⓇ ストア表参道店で
瞳分析シュミレーターをやった時に
スタッフさんがおススメしてくれた
ラディアント ブライトTMも
早速試してみました😌✨
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shu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんの
おすすめアイテムでセルフメイクをしたよ💄✨
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この前のメイクとは雰囲気が全然違って見えて
私も気になっていたイエローが主役で
今年っぽくてお気に入り☺️✨
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アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ はUVカットなのも嬉しい💕
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使用したコスメ
✔️プレスドアイシャドー M330A
✔️プレスドアイシャドー P875
✔️ルージュアンリミテッド CR321
✔️チークグローオン P550
✔️ブローアンリミテッド スパイキーイエロー
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(@acuvue_jp )
(@shuuemura )
#PR#ディファイン#ラディアントブライト#シュウウエムラ#メイク#カラコン#カラコンレポ#アイシャドウ#チーク#コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい#メイク好きな人と繋がりたい#お気に入りコスメ#idefineme#idefinebright#shuuemura
http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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この日のメイクはナチュラルめです 💡アイシャドウ
shu uemura
💡チーク
shu uemura
💡リップ
shu uemura
💡コンタクト
アキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ ラディアント チャームTM @acuvue_jp
@shuuemura

#PR
#ディファイン
#ラディアントチャーム
#idefineme #idefinecharm
#shuuemura #カラコン


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Beautiful day with healthy breakfast #eathealthy #befit #stayfit #idefinemyfitness #idefineme


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こんにちは☺️💕
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今日はお昼も投稿😌✨
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@acuvue_jp 表参道ストアで瞳診断してもらって私に一番似合うとでた、アキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント スウィートTMのコンタクトをつけて、@shuuemura のコスメでモテメイク❤️
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使ったコスメはこちら😘
Eyes.. ブレストアイシャドーM136&M139
Eyeblow... ブローアンリミテッド スパイスアップピンク
Cheeks... チークグローオンCM320
Lips... ルージュアンリミテッドシュプリームマットWN225
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新しい自分に出会えた感じ😍💕
綺麗なパープルのアイシャドーの発色がすごい💕
ピュアで潤んだ印象のデザインのアキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント スウィートTMのコンタクトがすごく合ってて😍❤️ .
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至近距離でも自信が持てちゃう😘
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午後も頑張ろうね😌💕✨
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#PR #ディファイン #ラディアントスウィート #idefineme #idefinesweet #shuuemura #シュウウエムラ #メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク #コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい #メイク好きな人と繋がりたい #makeup #beauty #instabeauty #ビューティー #cosmetics #コスメ #cute #可愛い #girl #natural #ナチュラル #happy

http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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Learn to let it go. Hate can destroy your soul if you let it. You can forgive but never forget. Begin to heal and learn the lesson. #lifequotes #instaquote #idefineme #selflove #behappy❤️ #lessonlearned #letitgo #noregrets #nohate #patienceisavirtue #soulhealing


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今日はアキュビューⓇ ディファインⓇ のコンタクト、ラディアント ブライトTMをつけてみました🤭💓


この前のイベントのshu uemuraのメイクアップアーティストさんがおすすめしてくれたアイテムでセルフメイクしてみた💄

アイカラーもマスカラもイエロー普段使わないけど発色良いビタミンカラーは可愛くてお気に入り⑅◡̈*.


使用コンタクト:アキュビュー®️ ディファイン®️ ラディアント ブライトTM


プレスド アイシャドー<M330 A>
プレスド アイシャドー<P875>
ブローアンリミテッド <スパイキーイエロー>
ルージュ アンリミテッド<CR321>
チーク グローオン<P550>

全てshuuemura💛


@acuvue_jp
@shuuemura
#PR #ディファイン #idefineme #idefinebright #ラディアントブライト
#プレスドアイシャドーM330A #プレスドアイシャドーP875 #ブローアンリミテッド
#スパイキーイエロー #ルージュアンリミテッドCR321 #チークグローオンP550 #shuuemura
#シュウウエムラ #メイク #カラコン #カラコンレポ #アイシャドウ #チーク
#コスメ好きさんと繋がりたい #メイク好きな人と繋がりたい #カラーマスカラ #カラーメイク

http://acuvue.jp/df_event/


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We've been arguing a lot. ⠀

bumping heads⠀
frustrated⠀
hurt⠀

Fighting...this has been a new terrain we've been navigating in our relationship...a lot more than I'd like to admit. ⠀

As much as I want to run from it, give up, point fingers...and sometimes I do...⠀

I'm also compelled to lean in, look closer, ask better questions. ⠀

Because there is something different about this relationship...something unfamiliar. ⠀

I feel safe to be messy⠀
to be vulnerable⠀
to be wrong⠀
to be embarrassed⠀

I feel safe to not be the perfect woman. The perfect partner. The perfect person. ⠀

Sometimes I catch myself hitting an upper limit in the relationship and I think, "can this man really love me that much?! Can this last?! It's been four years, this is when it must all fall apart." ⠀

I get all wound up and I lose connection with the breadth and depth of who I really am and how I most want to express myself in relationship with others....especially the man I admire the most of any man I've ever known. ⠀

It's easy in those moments to give into shaming ourselves and all the places in our relationship that aren't working. ⠀

So what I want to say here is this (for me and for all people in relationships that matter to them)...don't give in, LEAN IN. ⠀

Lean into the difficult conversation, lean into curiosity about why someone might be doing what their doing, lean into more compassionate communication. Lean into the places that are hard for you, like letting go of the need to be 'right' or your assumptions about that person. Lean in my friend....and I will too. ⠀

PS. I'm reading #TheQueensCode by #AlisonArmstrong and it's rocking my world. Highly recommended for women who desire to be in better partnership with the men in their life. ⠀

Have you read this book? Do you have any great relationship books (or advice)?


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Enjoying my last day in this beautiful place! I really don’t miss home that much. I hope that I’ll be able to take more vacations like this. But I’m really loving this amazing sunset!! And I think the country is really growing on me 😉🌅☀️


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Ever since I was 11, the time when it all started, people would always say to me,
“Stop pulling your hair”
“Don’t touch your hair!”
“Come on, you just have to be strong. Get over the urge!” .
I mean, for how long was I going to deal with putting clips all over my head to pin new hair down? How much of my hair was going to be regrown? That too, in a strange new texture. All of this brought me immense shame, along with frustration. It was especially frustrating when I had to face the fact that my trichotillomania could not be resolved in an instant — that I couldn’t just stop pulling when I wanted to (which was about always). .
I attended a Trichotillomania Learning Center for BFRBs mini conference a month ago. I had the opportunity to meet people who dealt with the same problem as me for the first time. We were each the same, yet so different. Different because our experiences weren’t all the same, nor were our learnings. Some of us encountered psychologists who knew nothing about our behavior. Some of us were parents, who held the fear that our children were going to contract the same behavior. And some of us felt that others wouldn’t accept us, would dislike us if they knew what we dealt with. .
We made ourselves out of different life experiences and feelings, despite encountering a struggle with the same name. .
When someone sees my hair, I want them to think I gained from Trichotillomania rather than lost from it. Trichotillomania taught me to explore my own self at deeper levels, as well as other people. Most importantly, it taught me that in order to ASK for empathy, you must GIVE it first. And so, it’s the things we’ve learned that truly define us, not the struggle itself. .
I hope to change people’s perspectives on mental disorders as I continue to grow older — I recently signed up to be a student ambassador for the TLC. I hope my story can help others overcome their shame, because I know what it feels like, and it should never have to be that way
-Maya (Trichotillomania)
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#thisiswhatmentalillnesslookslike #mentalhealth #mentalillness #mentalhealthmonth #stigmafree #i #define #me #idefineme #photoproject #minoritymentalhealth #trichotillomania


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We often explore how even subtle shifts in the way we think about ourselves, or give meaning to our experiences can change the way we feel and engage with our world. As therapists we would be really like to solve the immensely difficult challenges our clients share with us. However, in the face of our helplessness as therapists, we are reminded that we all can have ownership over and the freedom to choose how we respond to a situation. This is empowerment!


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When you find a way to be stronger than your depression, life gets brighter ☀️Honoured to be an ambassador for @_worthliving Keeping the conversation going 💋#lifeisbeautiful #judgmentfreezone #lifeisworthliving #overcomingmentalillness #keeptalkingmh #iam1in4
#sicknotweak #activated #lifegetsbetter #thestruggleisreal #idefineme #lovemynewhat


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With every experience comes new growth. I’ve been on vacation for the past two weeks and I’ve been realizing things that are changing me as a person. I can definitely say that when I come back I will not be the same person. I am prepared to make changes in my life so that I can be happier than I was. And I’m gonna do what I want not what others think I should be doing. So I’m repurposing this old instagram for something new. I want to make new memories with the people that are in my life. So here’s to new experiences 🌟


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A person who tells you the truth about your self, or calls you out about the areas in your life that makes you uncomfortable is not Toxic. We have become, such a pacified society. Sometimes we need to hear, push a little harder. Stop calling everyone Toxic. Learn the difference. Most toxic people are too busy drowning to even give advice. Sit with your self long enough to reflect about your choices and behavior. Stop living in other peoples experiences. Tell your self the truth
#tellthetruth #tellmesomethingidontknow #prespective #growth #idefineme #vulnerability #tranformation #soul #searching #reflection #GRACE #trustingtuesday #together #honestyquotes


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#idefineme


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⏰⏰Time and time again, you have been told your limits. You cannot be in that kind of shape at 30. 🤵You will not have time to do that once you have kids. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦You can only go this far. I'm telling your right now, "YOU CAN!!!" 🔥🔥🔥You define your limits. Get after it. Tag a hater, and tell them you'rer coming. 👇👇
#nolimits #Motivation #idefineme #dadbod #4efitness #training #fitnesscoach #instagood #fitdad #fitparent #goals #nothingcanstopme #journey #dreamlife


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Lol lol I tried to get it so that the little metal Skal was my head but she kept moving and I couldn’t get it LOL LOL #reflection #scotiankitty #novascotia #nofilter #idefineme #DoYou #atlanticocean #eastcoast #friendsarelife #ageaintnothingbutanumber #kidstonLake #spryfield #mondaymotivation


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Strong. Happy. Confident. But most of all IN CONTROL. Me, I am in control of my life. No one else is responsible for my happy but ME. I am not a victim, I am not what my past was, I am not what people talk about, I am not hard times, and I am becoming everything I want to be. <—— that feels good to say, it feels good to be apart of something so life changing. Never have I actually had the realization that I am PROUD and GRATEFUL for my life, my body and who I am becoming.
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You can not control everything in your life, but you can control how you react to every situation. Just take the steps in the right direction, you may not see the whole staircase but you just have to take the first step! .
#trustandbelieve #liiftandconquer #bodypositive #confidence #confidenceissexy #happiness #letgoofthepast #letgoofothersopinions #idefineme #gratitude #attitudeofgratitude #newme #lovethenewme #gratefulitookaleap


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20 hours later...
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#nofilter #nomakeup #snow #switzerland


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Time changes nothing.
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#mixedbabies #mixedracedchildren


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