I have quite a few thoughts about the Gillette ad and the backlash. Obviously this image paints with a broad brush, but having watched the ad the outcry is very telling.
I could write a novella on the current state of manhood and how people on many sides of the manhood debate are approaching it, but for now, I’ll just say this..
I’ve been accused of being “metrosexual” for wearing clogs, or being meticulously dressed during one season of my life, being teh ghey because I didn’t know sports stats off the top of my head, looking big and black and scary, for being big and black, looking intimidating when I had my dreads, being alpha because I”m a big bearded dude, and through it all (and thanks to the example of an eccentric, artistic father) I’ve learned this... NEVERMIND ALL OF YA’LL. No one defines my manhood for me. No one defines my humanity. I love my wife. I love my children. I will viciously and violently protect ALL of my loved ones if anyone threatens real harm to them. This ain’t the 50s. But, I desire peace, I am a peacemaker. I’m comfortable with myself and living my life. No beer commercial, incel, men’s right, feminist, govt study, bigot, patriot, progressive, or conservative dictates what is important or durable in my life. I listen to many views, I read many takes, I empathize and analyze, then at the end of the day, I live to serve my God, my family, my community, and my health and have to because everyone is trying to make you what THEY want you to be. And living for that, is exhausting. People will hate you and talk about you even when you’re genuinely trying to build up those around you and be the best, most authentic you you can be. So do you. Just don’t use that as an excuse to be a dick. LOVE thy neighbor. Notice there are no conditions placed on that.
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