January is Alzheimers Awareness Month 💜 and this is a photo of my nonno who was diagnosed with dementia; Alzheimers is the most common cause of dementia. I wrote down below a small letter to all who take care of those suffering from dementia or Alzheimers:
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It's not your fault and you are doing amazing. Yes, it can be stressful and there are moments where you want to cry. However, I need you to know that you are doing everything that you can for your loved one. When they won't listen to you or act out, I need you to know that this is not them, it's the disease talking. When they don't remember your name or who you are... do not take it offensively. It is the disease. As much as the disease tears them down slowly, I need you to know that the memories you have with them, will never change. They don't go away. I need you to know that your loved ones won't stop loving you. The disease will take them away from you however the bond you have will never disappear. You also need to know that you don't need to handle it all on your own. This disease will take a toll on you; emotionally, physically and mentally. It's ok to put your loved one in a nursing home. You shouldn't have to be the one to take care of them 24/7 as your health also matters. This is not selfish either. Your loved one may resent you for it in the beginning however you need to know and understand that you're making this decision for them. You are also taking their health into consideration. This disease is terrible, inevitable and progressive. You couldn't have stopped this from happening. You also need to look at a nursing home as their new home. This home isn't a bad home and the care you gave to them doesn't stop. You are simply handing over the care to someone else and that is okay. You are allowed to do that. Finally, thank you. Thank you caregivers for everything that you do.
Sincerely, Nurse Sam 💉🏥