Wow! Soooo many of you asked questions about polyamory and non-monogamy on my previous post! First of all, thank you for sharing. Seriously. ✨It’s a fucking honor that I put out a question and y’all are pouring out what is real for you!!! I see you. And thank you.
Next, I want to start by digging into all of this by saying...
Polyamory and non-Monogamy are not “more evolved” ways of relating. If you are new to the subject, before you create any major opinions on what is right for you, it’s important to note that our culture has fed us a mononormative toxic script. Meaning, the institutions and power structures in place have been built around favoring monogamy and essentially human ownership by things like laws, religion and language for generations upon generations. With ideas that monogamy and monosexuality are the standard and more normal and natural ways of relating. Co-dependency is normalized. Manipulation and coercion are normalized! And jealousy is believed to be an obvious indicator of love.
We are immersed in this through songs, movies, media and our legal system. Ex: tax reductions for legally married couples and basically every pop Love song ever written. 😭I was raised as white middle class catholic with a steady diet of Disney movies. Hellloooo. There is a still an internalized part of me looking to be saved by Prince Charming!! Yuck!! 😁
With that being said, it’s important to examine these beliefs so you and I can separate them from what is our actual inner TRUTH!!!
***So please share, what are some of the toxic messages you received as a kid of what relationships should look like???***
Again I likely won’t respond to your comments but I do read them and they not only inform
my work but support others in this insta world to realize they are not alone!!!!✨✨✨
P.S. this post was also very inspired and impacted by a class I just took with @drlizpowell and Heather Elizabeth @sdscon #sds18 #polyamory #openrelating #nonmonogamy