Problem: How do you discuss out-of-state holiday plans for your kiddos with your ex when you have no custody agreement? ▪️
Thanksgiving is here, and Christmas break is right around the corner. With family spread all over the country, sometimes you want to take the kids out of state for a fun experience or time with your family. ▪️
When I was asked how to broach this conversation, here are a few things I suggested:
✅ Plan the conversation (your part) ahead of time. This doesn’t mean you should assume what THEY will say, only what you want them to know. If you know it, discuss the basic itinerary. 🎡🏕🗽 ☎️ Call. THIS IS NOT A TEXT MESSAGING CONVERSATION. Tune in TUESDAY for our first ever #TipTuesday surrounding when to text, call, or chat face to face. ✅ Provide some things you are willing to do to keep the other parent in the loop (ex. FaceTime, check-ins at different destinations, and a commitment to be available if they need to reach you 📱) ✅ Don’t have this conversation during a particularly high-stress point in your week or month. If you know Mondays are rough or the last week of the month is always busy, then plan to talk with them later on in the week or at the beginning of the month. 📅 ✅ Listen. Hear the concerns of both the other parent and the kiddos you are taking out of state. Don’ t dismiss any of them right away. Take notes 📝and get back to them. Say yes to as much as possible. ✅ Provide as much notice as you can. Last-minute planning can always cause some conflict, so consider their feelings and plans as you let them know early of your expected holiday travels. Early is always best.
Those are some of my solutions for tackling this difficult topic. What are yours? What have you found has worked, been helpful or even unhelpful in a similar situation?
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