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by @awakeningwomensupport

‼️10 WARNING ⚠️ SIGNS OF HIDDEN EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL, AND NARCISSISTIC ABUSE‼️
🛑 This blog may trigger you, And I am okay with that, because my main intention in writing this is in hopes it reaches many women who need this wake up call. Please share the blog itself, or tag some women you care about below. We must get this information out there collectively!
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I have been working with women in my counselling and coaching practice for over 6 years, and some of that work has been helping them identify emotionally unhealthy, even abusive behavior happening behind closed doors with their intimate partners.
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Some women come to me telling me they are depressed, exhausted with Adrenal Fatigue, feeling low in motivation, and have a long list of other mystery health symptoms that nothing they are doing nutritionally, with supplements, or naturopathic care will touch.... Keep reading >>> {link in bio}!


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by @lifelessonsandlovesessions

I can attest to this. It seems strange but it's actually an easy pattern to fall into. In my book, I discuss how I came to tolerate hurtful behavior and how it went from being a shock, to accepted, to normal seemingly overnight but actually expanded over years. It became something I expected. What angers me the most is that my my kids expected it too. It was an unpleasant family affair.
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#makingpeacewithbrokenpieces
#lifelessonsandlovesessions #brokeninside #brokenpieces #brokenpeople #brokensoul #toleratingdiscomfort #breakingthecycle #relationshiptalk #relationshipissues #relationshipmatters #recommendedreading #goodreads #bookstagram #abuse #abusedwomen #abusesurvivor #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #abusecycle


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by @lifelessonsandlovesessions

Man, let me tell you. I am not the salesperson type. I'm an introvert so I'm barely the people person type, but when I say I jumped through hoops, performed all kinds of magic tricks, and spewed all kinds sales pitches and slogans to make a bad relationship look good, that's exactly what I did. That's just further proof that you can do anything you want to do If you put your mind to it!
#makingpeacewithbrokenpieces is available for pre-order now! LINK IN THE BIO!!
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#abuse #abusedwomen #abusesurvivor #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #abusecycle #emotionalabuse #abuseisnotlove #verbalabuse #abuseisabuse #physicalabuse #mentalabuse #abuseisnotalwaysphysical #abusednotbroken #abusedidntwin #abusednomore #abusehurts #liesandcheating #liesandsecrets #recommendedreading #goodreads #bookstagram #blackgirlwrites #blackgirlwhowrites #blackauthor #firsttimeauthor #love #loveyourself #IGreads


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by @lifelessonsandlovesessions

If my previous relationship taught me nothing else, it taught me that being strong was my only acceptable option. It dropped me off at my weakest point and left me with a handful of breadcrumbs to find my way back. The only problem was that the crumbs kept leading me back to destruction. That was the setup and, in my book, I talk about how I fell for it over and over again.
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I had to make the choice to turn my back on the breadcrumbs and make my own way. That was the best thing I ever did. .
*PRE-ORDER YOUR COPY OF MAKING PEACE WITH BROKEN PIECES* link in the bio!
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#makingpeacewithbrokenpieces
#abuse #abusedwomen #abusesurvivor #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #abusecycle #emotionalabuse #abuseisnotlove #verbalabuse #abuseisabuse #physicalabuse #mentalabuse #abuseisnotalwaysphysical #abusednotbroken #abusedidntwin #abusednomore #abusehurts #womantowoman #womanofpower #womoms #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #womenhelpingwomen #womeninspiringwomen #womenwholead


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by @lifecoachdiscovery

Being abused causes trauma psychologically and physiologically. Being educated gives you insight and power to end the cycle. If you have been abused understanding Stockholm syndrome and trauma bonding helps you to know you're not weak, crazy or hopeless. And if you know someone who has been or is being abused educate yourself so that you don't find judgement but compassion.
#stockholm #abusecycle #educate #nomoreabuse #endthecycle


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by @dont_gaslight_me_bruh

Don’t fall for the narcissist’s hoover maneuver!
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☎️ For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, ‘Hoovering’ is when a narcissist touches base out of the clear blue intending to suck you back into the abuse cycle. Their intention is to make you break No Contact by baiting you into a response.
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☎️ Hoover maneuvers are usually vague, and often laced with thinly veiled threats and guilt-trips.
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☎️ A Hoover message will usually say something like “hey stranger, long time no see, I‘m getting so worried about you!”, or “you need to contact me immediately, I have some important news.”
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☎️ Please stick with your strict No Contact regime and ignore their predictable hoover maneuvers. Narcissists never ever change! #blockanddelete
~ @dont_gaslight_me_bruh


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by @simonewriter

You've realized your house is messy.⠀
There's dirt and clutter everywhere.⠀
Or maybe it's hiding in the nooks and crannies of the space.⠀

What do you do then? Do you keep talking about how your house is messy? Do you spend your whole time trying to find out who created the mess? Or maybe you already know it and spend your days complaining about how others caused all the mess in your house?⠀

Some people spend their lives like that - talking about how their house is messy but never realizing that it's up to them to pick up the freaking broom and clean it if they want it clean!⠀

And yes, maybe the job will require a lot of moving stuff around and a lot of scrubbing, but it is YOUR house and your responsibility to deal with it as it is now. ⠀

And not until you decide you want it clean and you are willing to do whatever it takes to get it cleaned, you will sit in a mess.⠀
Nobody can decide that for you, but you can get the support and resources that you need to get through the process however arduous it may be.⠀

Don't waste any more precious day feeling powerless to get out of the chaos.⠀
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#internalizedoppression #internalizedmisogyny #emotionalfreedom #abusecycle #intergenerationaltrauma #domesticviolencesurvivor #freefromabuse #traumahealing #relationshipaddiction #loveaddiction #selfcompassion #selflovecoaching #chooseyourselfeveryday #setyourselffree #rewriteyourstory #kundaliniactivation #therebirth #havecourage #spiritualawakenings #bebravewithyourlife #ownyourpower #selfrespectfirst #liberateyourself #itsonyou #mondaymotivational #mondaymorningmotivation #selfresponsibility #problemsolver #crisiscoach #fiercewomen


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by @sage.the.monsters

Constantly lying out of your lying liar hole.... Repost from @narcknowledge
Regrann from @hivevillage - When you are confronted with a person who claims to be the victim, here are some pretty reliable tests you can apply to see if you are talking to a real victim, or an abuser who is playing the victim (thus attempting to win you over as their ally) #liarliar #domesticviolence #playingthevictim #fakevictim #lying #psychology #socialscience #abusecycle #narcissistfree


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by @exposingthesociopath

🤣😂 #relatable #Repost @narcknowledge
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Regrann from @hivevillage - When you are confronted with a person who claims to be the victim, here are some pretty reliable tests you can apply to see if you are talking to a real victim, or an abuser who is playing the victim (thus attempting to win you over as their ally) #liarliar #domesticviolence #hivevillage #jeffcrippen #playingthevictim #fakevictim #lying #psychology #socialscience #abusecycle #narcissistfree #hivevillageproject . https://cryingoutforjustice.com/2012/01/16/how-to-spot-an-abuser-who-claims-to-be-the-victim-by-jeff-crippen/ - #regrann


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by @narcknowledge

Regrann from @hivevillage - When you are confronted with a person who claims to be the victim, here are some pretty reliable tests you can apply to see if you are talking to a real victim, or an abuser who is playing the victim (thus attempting to win you over as their ally) #liarliar #domesticviolence #hivevillage #jeffcrippen #playingthevictim #fakevictim #lying #psychology #socialscience #abusecycle #narcissistfree #hivevillageproject . https://cryingoutforjustice.com/2012/01/16/how-to-spot-an-abuser-who-claims-to-be-the-victim-by-jeff-crippen/ - #regrann


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by @lightchaser75

Thanks to Shahida Arabi (@selfcarewarrior) for this insight. The charm of a narcissist is almost supernatural. They could sell you an aneurism and have you asking for another one with a smile on your face. They can bleed you dry emotionally and leave you with the impression that they did you a favor. No matter how deeply they wound people , it seems that they always end up with a “get out of jail free card” and an empathetic entourage who are quick to tell you that they are just “doing the best they know how.” I wish I were that persuasive. I wouldn’t want to be related to one but I’d love to have one on my sales team if I had a product to sell!


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by @dont_gaslight_me_bruh

Sudden displays of kindness from a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath are always disingenuous, and nothing more than a deceptive part of the sweet/mean cycle of abuse. If their narcissistic supply is running low, they simply must go on the hunt for more.
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These types are duplicitous master manipulators who are great at demonstrating pseudo-empathy and fake altruism if it somehow serves them. Toxic people always have an ulterior motive! Also, they have to throw you just enough crumbs to keep you around, but train you to accept less and less as time goes on.
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Unfortunately, abusers are not suddenly going to wake up one day and decide to be decent people, and I don’t like saying it. Hurting others is ingrained in these types, and they will revert back to abusing you every single time, despite claiming to have “seen the light.”
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The classic cycle of idealize/devalue/discard plays out in exactly the same way, whether the abuser is a spouse, family member, friend, or work colleague. This is why going limited contact (or gray rock) with strong boundaries, or total no contact (if your situation allows) is essential because the abuse cycle will never stop.
~ @dont_gaslight_me_bruh


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by @jenpeters_soulguide.healer

Please know that these beliefs are not yours - they never were. They were given to you when you were an innocent and beautiful child, by a parent or carer who also carried the same beliefs about themselves.⠀
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The person who was charged with loving you and teaching you how to love yourself may not have been skilled in the wonders of self love themselves, or perhaps they were unsupported.⠀
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Instead of learning how utterly loveable you were, you learnt that you were hard to love, unloveable even. You also learnt that love was outside of yourself and if you wanted to be loved - you have to earn it and just being yourself simply wasn’t good enough.⠀
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These beliefs stay with us unless we re-write them with the help of a skilled practitioner. Nearly every decision we make small and big get passed through those wounded filters. ⠀
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We also choose our partners through the very same wounds. You can imagine the result when selecting a partner through the broken lenses of being ‘unworthy, undeserving, unloveable or not enough.⠀
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Very few parents would ever intentionally set out to cause their child life long heartbreak. However, as a parent myself I am very aware that if I parent through my own wounds then they will be passed on to my son. Therefore it is my responsibility to ensure past hurts are fully healed and integrated.⠀
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You didn’t have the choice to say “No Thanks” to toxicity when you were little. - but you do now. ⠀
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You have the power to heal the wounds from your childhood that caused you pain and shame throughout your life - reducing the risk of creating the very same wounds within your child. ⠀
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Limiting beliefs and patterns can be released and rewritten quickly enabling you get unstuck and get on with creating an incedible life for you and our future generations.⠀
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#ascension #parenting #abusecycle #awakening #consciousness #enlightenment #spiritualpath #wisdom #spiritualwisdom #growth #transformation #empowered #5D #empowering #spiritualquotes #healer #jenpeters #meditation #mindfulness #yoga #dailyquotes #kids #innerchild #beliefs #conditioning #children #hypnotherapy


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by @findtreatmenttoday

What is your favorite thing about recovery? When @cleanlivingcommunity asked @sillylara this question, her answer was spot on! 👌⬇ "My favorite thing about recovery is that I am constantly growing. I look back on the years throughout my recovery and I see how far I have come. I work everyday to be a better human. I have grown into a woman I am so proud to be." - Lara Frazier

Thank you @sillylara for this glimpse of what the future looks like for those who choose to find treatment. #clean 👊

Photo credit @cleanlivingcommunity

Phoenix, Arizona
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by @dont_gaslight_me_bruh

⚠️ Never underestimate what these reptiles are capable of. Just when you thought it was safe, they can and do come up with yet more ways to strike.
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Narcissists and other toxics simply can’t resist throwing you a monkey wrench if they hear you’re moving on with your life and doing well. This often happens after a lull, or perhaps a period of No Contact.
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I know it can be easy to forget just how painful narcissistic abuse is when you haven’t seen the abuser/s for a long time, so please keep your guard up survivors!
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~ @dont_gaslight_me_bruh


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by @tatzgrl

I feel bad for his new #target - I did what I could though to help prevent others from suffering at his #hands because all he knows how to do is #betrayal - of course I’m the #crazy ex though and am full of #shit - despite only telling the #truth about that #evil being... #Repost @narcissistic_abuse_lifecoach with @get_repost
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Narcissists can be men or women. #love #relationship #breakup #divorce #ex #narcissist #motivationalquotes #domesticviolence #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #sociopath #physicalabuse #narcissisticabuselifecoach #abusecycle #manipulative #psychopath #control #enablers #ptsd


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by @findtreatmenttoday

Sometimes you have to let life turn you upside down, so you can learn how to live right side up. If you feel its time to change your perspective and find treatment, we are here to support you in your journey. #anewperspective 💠

Phoenix, Arizona
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by @lifelessonsandlovesessions

Sometimes, I feel a little emotional when I think about how far I've come. Sometimes, I'm riddled with remorse because my children had to share that journey. Now, I'm better and I can only hope that the damage they were subjected to through the physical, verbal, and emotional assaults have healed as well. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
In my book, I talk about how unhappy and lost I was but during that time, I never once considered the effects my dysfunction was having on my children. If you are in an abusive relationship and you have children, the best thing you can do for them is leave. Make the decision, if not for yourself then for them, to seek out safety and serenity. You all deserve it. .
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#makingpeacewithbrokenpieces
#lifelessonsandlovesessions #cantputapriceonpeace #brokentopeace #brokensoulsmadewhole #abuse #abusedwomen #abusesurvivor #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #abusecycle #forgiveness #forgiveyourself #forgivingmyself #forgive #forgiveandmoveon #forgivenessisfreedom #forgivingme #kidsdeservealovinghome #kidshurttoo #familyhealing #blackgirlwhowrites #blackauthor #firsttimeauthor #relationship101 #lovehaterelationship #relationshipfails


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by @empathysays

#Patriarchy oppresses the #feminine aspect in ALL OF US.
The #divinefeminine is an essential part of everyone’s power.
#Health and thriving is about #balance, and there is no way to truly master our highest heights of #intelligence without #emotionalintelligence. Both #EQ and #IQ!
#EMPATHY #maleprivilege #rapeculture #abuse #abusecycle #parenting #selfparenting
@lelia.schott @synergy.gentle.parenting
Haven’t use any illustrations for my #art in a while, but this was obviously inspired by the brilliant work of @jill.greenberg that i originally to created this meme. Let’s repost this one from now on both in honor of and respect for Ms Greenberg’s art (and especially by using this opportunity to visit her website/page!)


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