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Happy Valentine’s Day to my Forever Valentine. You’re the brightest light in my life, Justin. ❤️


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C*NTS 4 LYFE. Happy Birthday ChaCha Modica! OH! #calmdown #🥃#biokween #alexandjustingettingmarried


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You guys. Hands down one of the best weddings I’ve ever been to. I laughed, I cried, I danced, I reconnected with so many awesome people... and there was a fire mid-ceremony. Just amazing. Justin and Alex, you deserve every happiness in your life and I’m so thankful you invited me to your big day! I love you so much! #alexandjustingettingmarried


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More pics from last night because I still am not over just how gorg it all was. #AlexAndJustinGettingMarried


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My gorgeous friends are married and their wedding was the party for the books! Thank you Justin and Alex for having me at this glorious union of two souls. 🥂 #AlexAndJustinGettingMarried


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What a night. I’m so thrilled that we were there to see #alexandjustingettingmarried 👬👯‍♂️👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨🎉🥂


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Finally a wedding that isn’t one of my dads #alexandjustingettingmarried


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I have way too many instruments packed in this lyft. Let's do this!!!! #alexandjustingettingmarried #weddingtime #loadin #cellistforaday #brooklyn


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Days 3, 2, and 1 on our #CountdownToTheWedding have flown by in a blur of sashes, stress cries, rehearsals, shots, and laughs and I still can't believe it's all happening. .
Through all of the ups and downs, there are the family, the chosen family, and the army of friends here to get you through and lift you up. That, in and of itself, has been the greatest joy of the past few days. And surreal. It's like when the Flintstones meet the Jetsons and your favorite people from your past collide with your favorite people from your future. It's a new, special thing, and it's fleeting. It will never happen again this way. So I'm going to savor every zany, beautiful moment with them. 🍖 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Happy #wedding day to one of my best and oldest friends. I couldn't be happier or feel more #grateful to be part of such a special celebration of #love. I seriously could have made seven more of these collages and not even begun to capture the joy and adventure and laughter we've experienced together in the 20+ years of our #friendship. Today will be a beautiful day. I can't wait to see you walk down the aisle and am so honored to stand by your side as you take your vows.
#alexandjustingettingmarried #yoshibegettinmarried #nintenIDO #hemakeshisheartvanpelt #goinggoinggonzalez


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Sunday was Day 4 on the #CountdownToTheWedding!
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Cheesefest Alert! 🚨 So Sunday was my last shift at work before taking the week off for the wedding, and I just have to say briefly how grateful I've been to 1) Be gainfully employed at two restaurants where I'm treated very well, and 2) Have both of those places be so supportive and loving and understanding through these past few weeks of wedding chaos. Truly, in all my years of working in restaurants, I've never experienced more understanding about schedule requests, actual interest about what's going on in my life, and genuine concern over whether my work life and personal life were balanced so that I was happy and making the money I needed to make. Hospitality is not my dream, but it's been so much easier these last few months walking into Buddakan and Dirty Bird, sometimes 6-9 shifts a week, and knowing I was valued and appreciated. It's been a lot of work, I won't lie. But it's been smooth sailing and thanks to all those long hours (along with Justin's months at sea), we've been able to make the dream of this wedding come true! Shout out to my managers and co-workers for being there for me through all the ups and downs! See you next week when I'm a married man! @buddakannyc @dirtybirdtogo #buddakan #dirtybirdtogo 🍗 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Saturday was Day 5 on the #CountdownToTheWedding!
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The question I get most often after "Are you excited?" is "Are you going on a #honeymoon?" The simple answer is yes, but we haven't planned it yet. Originally we thought #NewOrleans over #Halloween. This is also still when we were hoping Friday the 13th was an available date at our venue (#weirdos). Funny story. New Orleans is super expensive over Halloween! Who knew? Oh, everyone? K. 🎃
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We considered #CostaRica and have thrown around ideas for everything from #Montreal to #PuertoVallarta to #Barcelona (since we love it so) to, in our wildest dreams, #Bali. Still could be one of those places! Where do you think we should go? 🏝️#alexandjustingettingmarried


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Wedding weekend #1 is over.
Wedding weekend #2 begins Thursday.
Can’t wait to be inside you NYC.
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#nycbound #nyc #newyorkcity #wedding #awesomewedding #specialwedding #uniquewedding #funwedding #newyork_ig #newyorker #newyorkerforever #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Our #CountdownToTheWedding was a geeky good time on Day 6!
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We got up supes early Friday morning and dragged our tired asses downtown to the New York City Marriage Bureau, boldly (foolishly) braving pre-9am rush hour traffic in a quest for our #marriagelicense!
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There was a helluva line when we arrived. Thankfully, it moved quickly. There were #brides and #grooms and grooms and grooms and brides and brides all waiting to get #hitched. Moms looked on lovingly, adjusting veils. Best Men pep talked their friends. Brides wore vintage gowns and cute white party dresses and everything in between. We didn't exaaactly look the part. I wore my finest #TinaBelcher shirt and Justin was a vision in #Xmen. But I digress. It was a big, gushy lovefest. Got me very excited to have our friends and family by our sides.
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Afterwards, it was off to Comic Con, because this is us we're talking about (#geeksinlove) and of COURSE we double booked a big, important life-changing event the same day we...got our marriage license. 😏
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#NewYorkComicCon was delightfully geeky, and waaaaay over-the-top. Crowded, loud, intense. For our first year, we covered a lot of ground and had a great time! But the biggest takeaway from the day wasn't the awesome #Zelda t-shirt I got or the #DavidBowie #GoblinKing print Justin snagged, but the license we got that we'll sign and seal in just a few short days. It's going to be a great adventure! 📃 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Thursday was Day 7 on our #CountdownToTheWedding. One week to go!
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I worked all day Thursday, so there wasn't much wedding-related fun. But here's a fun fact. Our ceremony was originally planned to take place in #centralpark! The #BethesdaFountain has always been one of our favorite places in NYC and it seemed the perfect backdrop for our union. As originally planned, it would just be us, the wedding party and our immediate families. But after attending Lindsay's gorgeous wedding in Cancun this past May, I realized how important it was to have all our guests at the ceremony. There's something to be said for making your vows in front of those you love and sharing that special moment with them. So after some tweaking, we decided to have the whole shebang in #Brooklyn. There WILL be photos from our favorite spot in Central Park to come, though. Look for us under the angel! ⛲️ #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Wednesday was Day 8 on our #CountdownToTheWedding!
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I get asked a lot where we're getting married. When we were searching for #weddingvenues, we realized almost all of them were out of our budget. But we found a beautiful industrial raw space right under the #ManhattanBridge in #Dumbo with tall wooden beams, brick walls, and huge windows that flood the room with light. #TheDumboLoft fit our budget and gave us a beautiful space and backdrop for our photos, #ceremony, and #reception. We love it and we can't wait to see it transformed for the big day! 🌉 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Tuesday was our last official #NationalBoyfriendDay (whatever the hell that is) and also Day 9 on our #CountdownToTheWedding!
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Tuesday we spent most of the day together; my last night off before things really get nuts next week. I spent the first half of the afternoon with a little migraine, but I rallied enough to meet Justin for some Mexican Happy Hour snacks and a smooch before he headed off to a meeting. In the evening, Eric (@erharbin) and Avery (@averyragsdale) joined us for some wine and ::cough:: pizza (#weddingdiet) and an #origami #DIY project! To help fill out the #bouquets and #boutonnières, we needed dozens of these cutie #origamiflowers. We laughed and made puns and may have even inadvertently started a gay crafting circle...? My vote is for calling it "Happily Ever Crafter", but the jury is out. Maybe we'll incorporate Wicca and be The Crafters. "Hail to the guardians of the hanging macrame planters of the East!" Except we're all gay, so I guess that makes us all #Nancy? Well, at any rate, a lot of fun was had. We'd be lost without the help of our friends. Plus these are gonna look sooo great put together! 🎨 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Monday was Day 10 on the #CountdownToTheWedding and for obvious reasons didn't feel like a day to delight in celebrating anything.
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When major tragedies like the one in Las Vegas happen, my gut instinct is to hold Justin close; to confirm with my brain and my heart that he's there in the room with me, safe from harm. Seeing him isn't enough. I need the warmth of his skin against mine; the give and take of our breathing; the smell of his neck and the drum of his heart against my chest.
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When Tina had Ethan, I told her I don't know how the heart can handle having kids. I'm a nervous wreck any time I even imagine something bad happening NEAR Justin, let alone TO him. How magnified must that feeling be for parents? Suddenly I understand why our moms are so protective of us.
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And when things like this happen, I imagine how unbelievably painful it must be for those that won't get to hold their husband again. Their daughter, their brother, their wife or child. And my heart is filled with such sadness for their loss, these total strangers.
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After the Pulse shootings last year, I wept intense, heaving sobs for the loss of life. I was consumed with grief for those 49 souls, any of whom could've easily been me or someone I love. It was an intense few days and a wellspring of different emotions. This week, after waking up to the Vegas shooting, I felt numb. "Here we are again." Here are 59 people who will never again feel the warmth of a lover's embrace, breathe the same air as their mother, smell the hair of their child.
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This wedding thing, as silly and inconsequential as it can feel when consumed by the micro details of it all, has made me reflect a lot. We should revel in celebration for the joys of life. Enjoy the minutiae. Embrace the silly. Take photos. Luxuriate in the blissful, still moments in between. Tomorrow is not a guarantee. Don't wait til tomorrow to love. ❤️ #alexandjustingettingmarried


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It's been a weird and troubling few days in this crazy world and I've fallen far behind on my #CountdownToTheWedding, so I'll be playing catchup tonight, starting with Day 11!
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This past Sunday we stood at 11 days to liftoff, and to celebrate, I thought I'd post one of my favorite shots from our photo shoot with Jules (📸: @portablememories) one week earlier in #centralpark. This was early on in the shoot when we still didn't know how to act natural in front of the camera and I think she captured us beautifully in this candid moment. It's also one of the only times we weren't focused on each other, which I find charming. What we're laughing at, I have no idea. Moments like these aren't rare with us, but rarely captured this perfectly.
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The planning process for this #wedding has been very stressful for me. Since this shoot, I've been growing my beard back in and I have DOZENS of new gray hairs. Not joking. But this past Sunday things seemed clicked into place and it was the first time in weeks I felt relaxed all day.
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Life will throw curveballs at us and make us feel crazy sometimes, but it all comes back to moments like these. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life laughing with this goofball I'll soon get to call my husband. 😄 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Yesterday was Day 12 on the #CountdownToTheWedding and I would've posted, but like, hello. Brunch happened.
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I can say with some certainty that I've now browsed more #floraltie options online than I thought possible. As Cyndi might say, it was #tieaftertie. After the hit that was my #TopShop floral #skinnytie at Lindsay's rehearsal dinner in May, I've been in love with #patterns like these! Wasn't finding anything in stores that I particularly liked, so it was @etsy to the rescue! But which one do you think I chose? Tune in October 12th to find out! Now release the b-roll hashtags! 🌸 #alexandjustingettingmarried
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#thatwaswayharshtie #fittobetied #alltiedupatthemoment #shehadbettedavisties #ifatfirstyoudontsucceedtietieagain #tieanotherday #tuhtuhtuhtiesharona #nicetiejan #awrinkleintie #crossmyhearthopetotie #youareknotthefather #knottybynature #tiebeorknottiebe ...ok, I'm done.


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Today was Day 13 on our #CountdownToTheWedding!
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With less than two weeks to go til the wedding, I was practicing my talent, finishing my costume, brushing up on current events, and running eighteen miles a day on about four hundred calories. I. Was. Ready.
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Ok, but actually we bought some #wine at #traderjoes (special super huge thanks to Greg [@gregram06] for all of your help!) and ran a bunch of errands. Lots of wine. Lots of errands. Coming down to the home stretch! 🍷 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Day 14 of our #CountdownToTheWedding is a bit unusual, so bear with me. #2weekstogo
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I've found myself wondering lately. How do you part with a name? I always assumed I would keep my last name if I ever got married. Some of my female friends have. Some haven't. I know some gay couples that have hyphenated, but not many. But it was always an odd thought. Why would I WANT someone else's name? How #heteronormative!
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But then...why not? I've never truly fit the part of a Gonzalez, after all. When people learn my name, what follows is an immediate questioning of my parentage, race, and background. No one accepts that pink-skinned, blonde-haired, red-bearded Alex is actually Alejandro Gonzalez without proper convincing. Then it's more questions or an off hand comment about being a white boy or an uncomfortable adoption punchline. People are surprisingly tactless sometimes. And it's been my entire life. In middle school my mom gave me permission to legally change it because I felt tortured, but I kept it. I guess because it was unique. Even when it was tiring, it was interesting. Part of it was the hope that if I kept it, it still somehow connected me to my birth dad, who I didn't have a relationship with at the time. Silly childhood ideas. The idea came up of taking on the family name Hernandez, like my dad, mom, and sisters. But although I felt like a Hernandez in my heart, it was sort of six of one when it came to representation.
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When I started considering Alex Carter as a stage name, it seemed to make sense. Then I had my identity stolen about 3 times, not even including the most recent incident of mistaken identity and ensuing wrongful tax levy placed on my bank account. So maybe changing my name was a solution. It got me seriously thinking.
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Then there's my impending marriage. I didn't want to lose myself entirely in the process, but both Justin and I like the idea of combining our names. When it all added up, Carter Van Pelt made for a nice new surname and one that would finally put to rest a lifetime of questions. So it was decided. A very big change indeed. The added 'Van Pelt' is forthcoming, but the Carter is here now. 😊 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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I forgot to post about our fun excursion yesterday on Day 15 of our #CountdownToTheWedding!
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We found ourselves in the #flowerdistrict of Manhattan, but we weren't stopping to smell the #roses. (You're welcome.) We were placing an order for the #flowers for our #centerpieces! We went with a beautiful array of #zinnias, #dahlias, #snapdragons, and #ranunculus. Some warm #pink, #red, #yellow, and #orange colors to offset the blue of the decor. I've never put much stock in flowers. They're usually expensive and they die. But Justin has a great eye for these things and we got a fantastic deal on everything! Plus they're #GORGEOUS! And hello. Look how stinking cute he looks in this pic! 💐 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Day 16 of our #CountdownToTheWedding has come to a close.
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We're inching ever closer to the big day. And by inching, I mean galloping at full speed. What's the Birdcage quote? Ah, yes. "It's like riding a psychotic horse toward a burning stable!" Yeah, that seems fitting. Today's psychotic horse was a #Costco cart (or two)! Tina (@thetinajensen) was a doll and escorted my neurotic ass to #WholesaleHeaven! I got #booze, beer, mixers, table snacks. All sorts of #goodies! Later this week the wine order will go in and my beverage price-comparing brain will finally find peace. 🍺 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Today was Day 17 on our #CountdownToTheWedding.
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Weddings are funny things. It's an awful lot of build up for a single day. It's an important day, no doubt, but...it's one out of, what, thousands and thousands? But we pour our heart, our sanity, our money, our resources, our every waking moment into it...and in two and a half weeks, poof! It'll all be over. And some days, that's maddening. Some days the to-do list and the budget and emails and best laid plans stack themselves up so high you can't see the sky. But if you're really lucky, you have that person there to pull you back down off the stacks and say, hey, one foot in front of the other.
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For months and months, the wedding has felt like the period at the end of a sentence. (I couldn't tell you a single thing happening in November. November doesn't exist yet.) But actually, it isn't a period, it's an ellipses... a breath...a pause... a moment that could lead to anything. It's a doorway dressed up like a party. The other side will feel familiar, but forever different. It's a new course mapped out in the stars and we'll have to teach each other how to navigate.
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This photo is from yesterday's shoot. We awkwardly tried several different hand positions to try and get both rings in the shot and this is the only one that really worked. Pinkies crossed, like a promise. I like the way it looks as if we've reached out for each other in a dense fog and found comfort and security in the slightest embrace; both of us sure the other is there, even if we can't see what's ahead.
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"And if you've got no other choice, you know you can follow my voice through the dark turns and noise of this wicked little town." ❤️
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We spent most of Day 18 of our #CountdownToTheWedding with the incomparable Julianna Rusakiewicz (@portablememories), who has been immensely generous with her time and talent and took some pre-wedding photos for us. We never took proper #engagementphotos, so today we went to #centralpark and had a blast being awkward/sweet/sweaty us. She took some fantastic shots and I can't wait to share them! In the meantime, feast your eyes on how we rewarded ourselves after a hot afternoon photo shoot. #Margaritas, dzzuuuuhhhhh! 🍹 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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On Day 19 of our #CountdownToTheWedding, I got my hairs cut! I'll need a shape up before the wedding, but I had to get the main 'do styled for our photo shoot with Jules (@portablememories). We wanted some engagement-ish photos before our actual wedding shots and she was kind enough to oblige! Can't wait to see the final product!! I was super stoked to take this pic before our shoot. Justin, not so much. It's ok. He just hates Snapchat. And fun. 🤷🏼‍♂️💕 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Day 20 of our #CountdownToTheWedding! Got my #suit today at #Zara. No peeking til the wedding! 👔 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Today was Day 21 of our #CountdownToTheWedding! It's the 21st and 21 days til the wedding AND exactly one month til our second reception in Kansas City which is on...the 21st! .
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Today was trying. It's the first time that the time crunch has felt really, really real. I had a long day, didn't feel like I accomplished anything, and my thoughts (and dreams) were consumed with wedding anxiety. Ugh. I get now why people go full bridezilla. But! I have channeled my inner #MatrimonyPony and am determined to start killing to-do list items like they're weeds. Tomorrow is a new day and I'm ready to CRUSH THIS!! 🦄 #ClompClompGirl #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Today, on Day 22 on our #CountdownToTheWedding, we went back to #dumbo #brooklyn for a sit down with our fantastic DJ, Alberto! We talked about #SaraBareilles and #Pink and #JanetJackson. We talked discussed our #firstdance and all the incidental music we want to hear on the big day. I feel soooo at ease about the music after today. It's going to be one hell of a party! 🎶 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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On Day 23 of our #CountdownToTheWedding, we tried some wine! We're on a #budget, so it was #traderjoes for this experiment, and honestly, I was shocked by how much I liked some of these. .
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An excerpt from our tasting:
"Babe, I got some wine for us to try! A #garnacha, a #pinotgrigio, and a #tempranillo with a little pig on the bottle!"
"Cute!"
"And it's called La Granja! We can call it Lagranja Estranga!"
"Please don't put me off the wine before I've had a chance to try it." 🍷#alexandjustingettingmarried


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Super behind on my #CountdownToTheWedding, but here's a peak at my half of the wedding party for Day 25!
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Wedding parties are kind of funny things when it's #twodudes #tyingtheknot. Like, what do we call them? Brosmaids? Groomsbitches?? Well, whatever the title, these people are all unbelievably special to me and I'm honored to have them as my...Matrimony Ponies...? I'm working on it. Much love to these six beautiful souls who I count among the greatest friends I've ever had. Can't wait to have everyone together in October!! 🤵🏼🐎 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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In the big #CountdownToTheWedding, even days off can feel like work, so I've fallen behind a couple days. Making up for it today with a (slightly delayed) Day 26!
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Justin has been hard at work on a #PaperFlower project for our wedding party's #bouquets and #boutonnières! Real flowers are expensive and we wanted something more unique and personal, so our #flowers will be made from comic book pages, playbills, maps from our travels, and various other colorful pages from our lives and loves. This #Xmen flower is just the tip of the iceberg. Our coffee table is covered! 🌺 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Day 27 on our #CountdownToTheWedding comes with a special delivery! Our dear friend, Charlie (@carlostoop), received his #ordainment certificate today!! In just a little under four weeks, he'll be marrying us in front of over 100 of our friends and family. So honored he agreed to take on the task. No pressure, Stoop. Keep it clean. 📜 #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Day 28 of our Countdown to the #Wedding! Today we are exactly FOUR weeks out to the big day! Our venue is paid off and our rentals are being finalized. Today we met with Ashley (@shleymc714), the absolute lord and savior of our wedding planning AND our sanity. We asked her to be our on-site coordinator for the wedding and she has stepped up in the most incredible ways; helping us plan every detail to the minute. When any/every little thing goes smoothly on the wedding day, she'll have had a hand in it and helped make it a reality. We're so beyond lucky to have her helping make our dream come true. Love you, Ash! ❤️ #alexandjustingettingmarried #countdowntothewedding


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Day 29 in our #CountdownToTheWedding was mostly spent adulting in totally lame, non-wedding related BS (oh hey, identity theft!) and work, but I did take a moment while on hold to appreciate how brilliant our #invitation #art is! .
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When Justin and I discussed invitations, I suggested we commission an artist for a portrait. When we got engaged, it was in the middle of his second cruise ship contract, so we never had proper engagement photos taken. I had already followed James Claridades (@squeegool) on Instagram for some time and loved his work. We reached out to him by email and had him re-create a photo from the night we got engaged in Venice and...well, you can see what a gorgeous piece he created from photo to sketch to finished piece. I can't recommend him highly enough! It still brings a smile to my face every time I see it. ☺️ #alexandjustingettingmarried


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Well, we're in the 30-Day Countdown to the Wedding! On Day 30 we went #centerpiece shopping at #IKEA and came home with a ton of loot! Lanterns and candles and vases, oh my! ...aaaand full meatball bellies. Can't wait to see it all put together! 🕯️#alexandjustingettingmarried #countdowntothewedding @ikeausa


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Our #wedding #caketasting with @wildflournyc yesterday was over-the-top amazing. We met with our friends and co-owners @ginishka and @krisca and had the most wonderful time. They had thought of every little detail and presented us with the most delicious array of options. #saltedbourbon #buttercream and #vanillachampagne #cake and half a dozen other things to taste. We were in cake heaven. So grateful to have such amazing friends in our lives and so happy and proud of them for their amazing work. Our #desserts are going to slaaaaaay. #alexandjustingettingmarried #weddingcountdown


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