// Part 2 of 3// They say old age is synonymous to infancy and it’s very, very true. The same unconditional love and inexhaustible patience that was once lavished upon you needs to come full circle; they need you the way you once needed them. And the kindest way to show them this love is by honouring them and giving them a life of dignity.
Medications will definitely do what they are supposed to do but let us not undermine the power of some psychological management here.
What can you – as a family – do to give them a life of dignified comfort? Here are just a few out of the many things that you can do:
- Talk to them gently, patiently, respectfully. If you are talking about them in their presence, say, “Mom is not feeling too good, we need to see her doctor. ” instead of “She’s not feeling too good so we need to take her to the doctor.”
- Greet them cheerfully whenever you see them. Introduce yourself if they fail to recognise you.
- Place a large wall clock in the room. Tell them what day and time it is.
- To reduce the risk of trips and falls, don’t clutter the room.
- Keep the room well-ventilated, but dimly lit. Too much light in the room can aggravate their anxiety.
- Keep your conversations short and simple. Avoid lengthy sentences that may agitate them. Speak slowly, using simple words.
- Be patient when they repeat certain phrases or ask the same questions again and again.
- Engage them in easy, manageable activities that they can enjoy.
- Do not, at any cost, blame them for being ‘lazy’, ‘dramatic’, or ‘uncaring’. It’s not their choice. Remain calm if you tend to get frustrated.
- Be attentive to their body language.
- Don’t stand to close to them while talking. It may intimidate them.
- Include the person in conversations instead of speaking on their behalf or completing sentences for them.
- Listen to the person. Give them plenty of time, pay attention to their feelings.
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