I was 17 years old when Brad & I first started dating. When I tell people this, I sometimes get a *look*. You know, the look where eyes widen & faces look full of astonishment & disbelief.
Or, I sometimes get excluded from relationship conversations because ‘I wouldn’t understand what it’s like to date in today’s world. I’ve been in a relationship for so long, I wouldn’t understand.’ Everyone, I’m here to tell you - that dating is dating! Brad & I are SO lucky to have found each other when we did - absolutely. But this does not mean that the ‘dating’ phase has stopped over these past 8 years (it never will). Or that things are easier just because we’ve been with each other for so long. I think what most people fail to see (especially around our age) is that ‘great’ relationships are not always easy. Relationships sometimes take work - from both sides. It’s accepting each other’s past, present & future selves & never giving up on each other (corny, but true). It’s growing up together & learning to love the new person they’ve become each and every year.
It makes me sad thinking about how easily people give up on relationships because of temptation or simply because of how rare it’s becoming to date the same person for more than a year - mainly due to the fear of ‘missing out on someone better’. Now I’m not saying to stay in a relationship if you KNOW your partner doesn’t add value to your life. By all means, do what’s best for YOU girl (or guy), & don’t settle until you’re truly happy!
All I’m trying to say is - please don’t lose hope on love. Please don’t give up on the person who fuels your fire. & most importantly, please don’t be afraid to let love in. It’s so freaking worth it.
#andthatsallihavetosayaboutthat #8yearsstrong #andbetterthanever