🌼🌻🌼 . “If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” .
The parts we often dislike or hate about ourselves or have deep fears of is often what we choose to avoid or stuff down. .
Running away from problems works. You read that right. Running away from problems works. Until it doesn’t. You see, it works momentarily...in the short term. We don’t like how it makes us feel, or what scary feelings & thoughts come up, so we usually end up choosing to ignore or avoid it. As humans, we wouldn’t do something that didn’t benefit us. .
It benefits us by allowing us to get away from uncomfortable things. Removing it (or ignoring it) allows us to feel immediate relief & it feels so much better. So we feel better. We’re laughing, going out, having a great time again. .
Until the issue, the feelings, the thoughts... they come back. And why does it always feel like it feels worse when we feel it again? Such as being alone when we are trying to fill that. Or trying to be more social when we have a fear of going out in public. Each time we avoid those things we don’t like, we get the immediate satisfaction from it leaving, so we train ourselves to panic & get afraid more, inevitably, making us hide more. So when reminded of it, it feels bigger. And rightfully so! .
What eats away at you will not necessarily be how you bite others, but 9 times out of 10, it will factor itself in. If you don’t heal the most inner parts of you, it will end up mirroring itself through your actions. Have a fear of being alone? Eventually, if you try running really far away from it, you’ll end up in the arms of someone & will push them away. Let’s say you have a fear of confrontation/speaking up and due to this, you are extremely passive. Picture the person who never says 1 thing they want. In return? It’ll eventually bubble to the surface & if it cannot hide any longer, what happens? You’ll have unnecessary resentment toward your closest partner, friend, family member... & it’ll surface. .
Take care of what bites you before it bites others. It isn’t fun and it never will be. But it’ll feel better later. You all deserve love & happiness. 💜🌻💜