Recently on a night out, I noticed a message in the women’s toilets and the drinks menu, where the bar claimed to be ‘female friendly’ and operate with a ‘zero tolerance policy to any form of harassment’. The bar had concocted a fake cocktail which ‘ladies’ were encouraged to order so staff could be alerted of any threatening situations. At first, I was delighted with this concept. It’s great that social venues are taking some responsibility of keeping the women inside safe. However, what struck me the next day, as well as a hangover, is the saddening idea that the bar assumed that only women need help in instances of harassment, or even more upsettingly, that men aren’t actually victims of harassment. Of course, I hadn’t been into the mens toilets, so can’t say whether this same sign was on their walls, though like I say, the same message was also in the cocktail menu. Male victims deserve the same amount of respect as female victims. They are not any less worthy of our help. We need to stop ignoring the voices of men. Stop buying into detrimental stereotypes, as like women, men are not always strong and they do get upset. So let them. Society needs to stop silencing male victims and using female oppression to ignore this. Harassment, abuse and rape is never acceptable, and our ears shouldn’t be less accepting when we learn that the victim is male.