I CARE A LOT ABOUT PEOPLE...
I want others to be successful.
I want others to have the best physical health.
I want others to have the best relationships.
I want others to know and live their purpose.
I want others to be financially wealthy.
But I've learned I care too much... I've learned that although my caring for others is a gift, it is also my curse.
Why I CARE TOO MUCH about what you think about me.
I care too much about not wanting to mess up and not wanting to upset, offend, or create ill feelings towards me.
I literally took an in-depth test and had it told to me that it was apart of personality and code.
I have noticed how much this has actually hurt me in my life.
As I have been so willing to help and take care of others, I am easily taken advantage of and left with nothing.
I don't say or put out a lot of what I should say in order to move my business forward, simply because of fear.
Why am I sharing this with you?
First because, in order for me to start breaking the habit of being so concerned about what others may say or thinking of me, I know when I think should I post that or not?
But also, because I know how many people can relate to this.
It's something I even coach clients on all the time, to stop trying to please everyone at the cost of your own well-being.
If this is you, you should consider the fact that if you do this, you will only create more hurt and setbacks for yourself.
You will set a lot of expectations and be let down constantly in your relationships believing that they owe you something in return.
This one aspect can lead to a lot of strain on your relationships, creating a lot of expectations and conditions.
Yes, I am speaking from experience.
Before you get scared and feel like you should STOP helping anyone, do this first.
1. Start creating and knowing your boundaries for yourself.
2. Know that if you do things for others it's your choice and do it without expecting anything in return.
3. Although the circle of people around you will shrink, be you, and let others fall away as a natural cause and effect.
(Trying to hold on to someone running away from you is exhausting)
Be You Let The Rest Be