I believe Father’s Day should be an extra special day for biological fathers and their children, because you are reminded of how he helped you through the ups and downs of the year. But that isn’t the case for all families. Some biological father-child relationships are never formed, never forgotten or only exist on a very distant come-and-go basis which makes this time of year pretty difficult.
I am one of those adult children who still longs for the biological relationship with a father that’s more than a “I’ll be in town this weekend” once every two years, especially since the opportunity for a connection has always been just a person’s ability away. I especially long for it at this moment because of the significant leg surgery I had seven months ago, which has changed me as a person and my life in many ways.
Every child deserves to have their biological father say he is just a call away, or he’s proud of them, and mean it. I know many of you will say “if you want him in your life, make an effort.” My response would be, “A relationship works both ways and requires more than one moment of effort.” You may also say, “Biological father is just a title, if he doesn’t want to be in your life, it’s his loss and you have people who love you for him and then some.” As I said, knowing there has always been an ability for connection, I feel people will always long for it no matter what support they have, but I do agree that “other people love you for him and then some.” This brings me to my next point.
People often say stepparents are extra special because they step in by choice when the biological parent steps out. I have to agree, and for that reason, I will turn this story from a story about the longing of a relationship with a continuously absent father to a happy father’s day wish to the person who has always been there regardless of my situation... [Full post on Facebook]