× “we win by tenderness, we conquer by forgiveness.”
just a little heads up of a longer post today / so often when life knocks us down, we harden our heart, stiffen our backs, charge on through life again, utterly unaware that we’re raging like a bull trying to let out whatever we kept inside. for some others, we choose to let our heart be soften and lifelessly drift along the current of the river. ♀️
being soft usually allow us to feel everything but at the end make us come out undone. being hard sometimes worked: it gets us places, things, or even achievement—but it is never what truly satisfy us. being hard-hearted puts up wall that keep people, rest and peace away from us and give us is damaging bitterness & isolation in return.
on the worst and best day, being soft and hard speak different languages. being soft can speak of fearfulness, fragility or shallowness, but also attentiveness, gentleness, and tenderness. on the other hand, being hard can vocalize strength, endurance and reliability, but also can be interpreted as pride, arrogance, or defensiveness.
still, there is no definite recipe to the portion of how much you should be hard and strong at all times, we can only learn it one step at a time and continue to remember that it is not choosing to pursue tenderness or strength, but always a unity of both.
v • long wharf pier / boston, ma
q • f. w. robertson