"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search For Meaning.
Man's Search For Meaning is one of my favourite books and I like to re-read once or twice every year to reinforce its important messages.
This quote really resonates with me as I often let circumstances out of my control really get to me and often affect me physically (sleepless nights, heartburn and so on). When I first read the book about 5 years ago, it made me realise that I can control how I react to the stressors of life. It wasn't easy to just switch off those negative reactions, but it made me more aware of my behaviour and I got better slowly and gradually. I often regressed back to old habits, but re-reading and doing more personal development have greatly benefitted me.
I have the power to control my responses, I can change things I do not like and that make me unhappy.
Example, when feeling unaccomplished in my professional career, and I look back at my achievements, I can see that I have achieved the goals I had set out in the past. Therefore I reflect and drive myself to think another way. I cannot blame anyone else or circumstances for the way I feel, I am responsible for my own life and decisions, I am capable and I just need to action all those ideas and plans that are in my head. I am the only person responsible for achieving or not achieving those goals.
Another example, I was unhappy with my weight after my second child and after a couple of years feeling sorry for myself, I saw that I could change that and only I could do something about it. No one else was putting extra food in my mouth! I was buying that food and I was feeding it to myself!
I am not perfect, I am flawed, I am work in progress, but I am also in charge of my life.
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