Drinking from this first Fathers Day mug the kids and I made for @david.tom.jones . This was our first professional family photo shoot. Got a great question about adoption advice in my IG stories today (check them out for some raw, real thoughts!) and it’s got me thinking a bunch of #adoption thoughts.
I feel like adopting and fostering gets a good rap for all the people who are trying to get more people to do it. But also, maybe because there is such a need!, I think people don’t shoot you straight. It’s a community of broken people loving on people from trauma and and broken families and it’s just plain hard. This doesn’t make it less beautiful or meaningful, but it’s my hope that we have more real conversations about it. We all cannot heal until we are real and authentic with our feelings; and this can only be birthed by more people telling the truth about it. .
So my truth is that adopting was absolutely, without a doubt, the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It broke me, changed me, shattered how I thought I would be, my family would be, BUT it made me grow (for the better), forced me to let go of things (things I thought were SO important but really weren’t!), and I freaking love my life BECAUSE we adopted. I can’t imagine going back to our old life! Sometimes, during the hardest times, I thought we couldn’t do it anymore. Not because of my kids, but because the whole process (even three, four years in) brought up every wound and insecurity! I even contemplated running away scenarios (seriously, and may have run away for a weekend or two to myself!), BUT because we stayed in it we grew as parents and as people. It’s the most refining thing I think humans can do, and I can say I have been refined by it for the better.
#adopting #fosterparent #fosteringsaveslives #fostering #tbri #empoweredtoconnect #thisisus