Emotional regulation. This is something we do daily..whether it’s while parenting, talking with co-workers, or driving in traffic. Whatever your situation may be, you choose how to handle your emotions when they start to get activated. Regulating your emotions isn’t easy, it takes control and self-restraint. If you’ve ever been or spoke to a mom of toddlers after a LONG day of whining and tantrums, you will see the direct effect of controlling emotions for an extended period of time. IT IS EXHAUSTING! It literally is a type of mental fatigue.
All of this being said, regulating your emotions is a key component to productive and positive communication and, especially, conflict resolution with your partner. If either partner has difficulty regulating emotions, what could have been straightforward conversations, will likely lead to explosive outbursts, hurtful words, defensive reactions and emotions that lean toward the extreme.
So before the next time you and your partner get into a difficult conversation think about and come up with a plan as to how you can better regulate yourself. Maybe it’s taking a few to cool off, maybe it’s your breathing, maybe it’s a mantra of calm or humility.. whatever works for you.
What are some tips you all have for regulating your emotions when things get heated? #bundleofroy