I want people to know there is a different from being judged / being prejudiced vs being oppressed and marginalized. People like to talk about ‘skinny shaming’ and while it sucks and hurts that skinny people get told to eat a burger or ‘real women have curves’ it is not the same as actually living in a fat and or marginalized body. We should stop telling all women how to be a woman and commenting on their body size, don’t get me wrong! However as a fat person i will statistically make less money than my skinner women friends. I will be less likely to be hired for a job I am qualified for because I am perceived as lazy. And medical neglect and shame! Did you know 54% of doctors think they should have the right to withhold treatment from ‘overweight and obese’ patients? That’s over half the doctors I will ever go to, they think they should not have to treat me because of my weight. Thinness is associated with high morality, health, wellness, intelligent and cleanliness. Being skinny doesn’t mean your life is perfect or easy, but it does afford you certain privileges even if you are not aware of them. You can still have hurt feelings when people harass you about your health, it’s not anyone’s business. Body shaming is harmful, but it is not the same as fatphobia and fat shaming. When conversations around body shaming and body positivity come up, if you’re in a thin body consider letting fat folks take up more space and listen and believe their lived experiences. Body shaming must end, and fatphobia is a deep part of body shaming and the conversation should not be happening without fat folks, especially fat folks of color, trans or queer fat folks, and disabled fat folks.