I never ever fault someone for moving closer to where they work and play, even if the rent is significantly higher.
You can get roommates to bring it below 25% of your gross income.
You can not be basic and actually find rental steals in every market (we do this wekly for OFT elite members)
You can team up with people close to you and buy triplexes under a business entity then rent them to yourselves.
In other words there are options.
But not so much with a 2-3 hour commute.
Driving from Bakers-fucking-field to Marina Del Rey each day doesnt give you any options. Unless you’re taking a train, you are 100% at the mercy of the traffic god for that day.
On top of that, driving all the time is sooo unhealthy.
I always say I’d rather grow calf muscles than guts.