It's Self Care Week. Day 2
Grief and loss have a way of robbing our identities without us even realizing that we had lost it. You are not you , or your old self, your demeanor starts to change, your language starts to reflect the pain you are constantly in, your body starts to change into a carrier of stress and heartache, You are not YOu, YOu are are now a griever, and the quicker you realize and accept this, the quicker you can begin to heal and complete your relationship with that which you lost, which can be your partners, your job, your child, even your identity or 40 other identified losses.
You see being a widow at the age of 27 has taught me so much about how people are clueless about growth after loss. And It's not because people don't care, it's simply because people don't have the right tools in their tool box to help them.
When I stumbled on the grief recovery method, it put things in perspective for me, It allowed me the freedom to create a new me, with an understanding that grief Recovery is about becoming emotionally complete and beginning the next phase of your life with a fresh perspective.
10 years later after attending many workshops, therapy sessions, mentoring sessions, and becoming a certified grief recovery specialist, I can tell you that grief recovery works.
I missed my oldself, that jovial 27 year old chic, that was carefree about how her body looked, that was open to entertaining friends, that was always a planner without feeling insecure if anyone would support. You see when we experience loss as it relates to a situation or someone it is quite amazing to see how we lose sight of who we were, not that we were defined by the other entity, but that other entity was part of our well being.
It's okay to miss the person or situation , but it's also okay to Miss YOU as well and the person you were. Now it's time to be your own kind of beautiful and purposeful.
There is nothing like thriving after only trying to survived.
I missed me a lot, glad to know I'm back and redefined at 37.