If we teach our girls to trust their gut instincts, that inner radar that says NO, and let them know it's important to honour that instinct and act on it no matter what, that will support them so much in setting firm boundaries with others in all kinds of relationships and situations. That's a big reason I'm running my Teen Girl: Wisdom Within course - because so many girls are raised to be "nice, good girls”, which translates in awkward situations to not speaking up, not wanting to offend someone or risk rejection, so their NO gets buried. If girls don't value their own opinion and knowing, others won't know to value it either. I speak from experience that it takes years to shake off people pleasing, good girl conditioning, and many opportunities get missed along the way, because it's SO hard to speak up when you've had a lifetime not.
This is why it's so important to teach our girls early that they can trust their gut instinct around people: friends, teachers, strangers, boys, everyone. Energy doesn't lie. Most people can be trusted, but our gut instinct gives us an extra layer that our rational minds don't recognise in the moment it's needed, largely because the people pleasing good girl is in charge! It's also an amazing guide in helping make choices that are right for them. To access their gut instinct, girls need to develop an awareness of how that instinct feels in their body. Such a crucial skill for life!
I hope your girls will join me in doing my 6 week Teen Girls: Wisdom Within course! We kick off Saturday, 27 October, and there's a 1 week break in the middle. The link is in my bio. Here’s to raising strong self-aware girls who confidently back themselves! 💙