#repost @carlybbenson. Thank you. This is wonderful.
#Repost @carlybbenson (@get_repost)
The other night after I taught my yoga class, I stopped into my spot to get sushi. Since I was by myself, I sat down at the sushi bar and rattled off my usuals. The guy next to me, an older man in probably his 70's quick-wittingly commented - "You've been here before, huh?" I suppose my certainty in what I ordered gave it away.
We got to talking & I humored him, although I felt a slight tinge of annoyance. He was a retired attorney who wanted to know what I did in "real life" besides teach yoga. As he implied that's not a real profession. Even though I wanted to get sassy, I didn't & again humored him because: elderly people etiquette.
As the conversation continued, it became much more apparent to me this guy was completely lit. I, then, started to take notice of the 2 sake bottles polished off in front of him, his words slurring more & more & his long 5-8 second pauses as he was trying to spit out his words.
In that moment, rather than be annoyed or pass judgement, I felt compassion for him. It made me sad, honestly, that he was there alone on a Tuesday night getting drunk. I remembered so many times where I was lit, looking for someone to talk to.
As I left, I told him to get home safely. I would like to think my kindness in the situation spoke so much more loudly than if I would have been a bitch. As I drove away, I wished I would have told him the side of my "career" where I'm a sobriety coach, but bit my lip in that moment when he asked because I felt like he was already judging me. And I wonder where that conversation would have gone instead or if he would have felt comforted to know that sitting at a sushi bar alone and drunk doesn't have to keep being a way of life.
My commitment going forward, which I'm usually really good about, it to unapologetically tell my truth to as many people (including strangers) as I can.
We can change our lives. There can be a better outlook. Like the outlook in this photo where I celebrated 9 years of recovery from alcohol & cocaine in Hawaii this year. I want as many people as possible to know that life can be as beauti