I myself learned lately how scared I actually m. I'm scared 2b misunderstood, 2have 2high expectations, 2not b enough, 2talk 2much2 and annoy the other, 2b clingy, 2hurt the other, 2b not heard, 2b judged, 2share 2much and b taken advantage of, 2not share enough or the wrong things, 2b lied 2, cheated on, ghosted, 2not give enough or 2give 2much and overwhelm the other, 2b not pretty enough, 2lose my confidence, 2b too confident, 2act on assumptions, 2ask the wrong questions, 2not ask at all, 2b too jealous, and I'm afraid of the judgement of the other's friends and family.
That's a lot of fears. And most of them have to do with our own insecurities. We define the other through our negative past experience, b4 they even have a chance 2show who they really are. On Top is the societal influence a big issue. Our expectations of how a relationship has to look like are fed by other people's "example", TV, movies, social media and the influence of our direct social environment like family, friends or even work.
That creates a lot of pressure for all of us. Even, if we r not aware of it, but it is subconsciously injected and feeds our mind with fears, doubts and hurtful illusions. And leads on top, if U r like me - a person loaded with emotions, decorated with temper and fused with a lack of patience - to short-circuit actions...which r mostly more harmful than helpful.
Emotions are created by our mind, based on memory and passed experiences. Worse - the negative ones are fed by fear! And we wouldn't even identify them as negative. Rather excuse them and assign them as a character treat. As something cute and vulnerable. Not understanding that we neutralize this negativity - our ego - and allowing it to define us. Our brain, always on the roll to protect us, tricks us into lies and illusions, that are not based on reality.
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