from @shes_the_thorns - Anxious-avoidant attachment style.
I can't even stress this out, how important it is to know your own attachment style. It explains absolutely everything once you start looking into it - your behavior, decisions you make subconsciously.. just everything. According to statistics, the majority of the population is secure.. Oh how I wish that was true, because most people I know have an insecure attachment style, that is either avoidant or anxious.
My question for you is to think about which attachment style YOU have - is it secure, anxious or avoidant?
(You can either look up more information on the Internet or continue reading my caption.)
- confident and secure in themselves
- communicate openly with their partners and don't worry about being lovable
- don't struggle with self-esteem
- preoccupied with relationships
- crave love and intimacy - worrying about whether their partner really loves them back
- overthinking and overanalyzing every detail
- have a lot of anxiety and beat themselves up a lot
- fear of abandonment and rejection
- constant need for reassurance
- fear of opening up to someone and getting too close to them
- self-sabotaging behaviour
- pushing people away, pulling away to keep their distance
- fear of getting locked down
- uncomfortable to express their feelings - underlying fear of getting hurt
These are formed within the first 2 years of our lives due to the consistent, inconsistent or neglectful parenting. It is important to bear in mind that this is a SPECTRUM. You can be
extremely avoidant, but also slightly avoidant where you have only a few avoidant traits.
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