Dear white women, we need to be better.
It's not enough to talk about intersectionality in our safe spaces. It's not enough to post about ourselves or our mothers or grandmothers marching for civil rights.
Because what we are doing when we leave those spaces is contradictory.
I'm talking to the white women like the lady who stood in the doorway of an apartment building blocking a black man from entering because she "felt unsafe" - who proceeded to call the police on a man who lived in said building.
I'm talking to the white women like the woman who started a business with a racist slur in the name - who when she was informed that that word was a slur, proceeded to make a live video crying about how she didn't know it was a slur, and apologizing to her customers, but ultimately saying that since she didn't know that word was a slur it is okay for her to use it.
I'm talking to the white women who hear about sexual assault and rape cases, who proceed to make jokes on social media about it, or to talk about how not all men commit sexual assault.
I'm talking to the white women who successfully protest pipelines going near their homes, but don't support indigenous people doing the exact same thing because "well, we need oil!"
I'm talking to the white women who proudly talk about their history supporting civil rights (marching with Dr. King!) but still give stink-eye to the WOC spending their EBT next to them at the grocery store.
I'm talking to the white women who "prefer to stay out of politics" and "just want to think about positive things" - that's white privilege and you are taking advantage of it.
I'm talking to the white women who see posts about not wearing cultures as costumes at Halloween, but dress their daughters up as Pocahontas anyway because "she really WANTS to and I don't want to talk about all that stuff with her yet, she's a child!!" You. Are. Part. Of. The. Problem.
This is not being allies.
The correct response to being told you are using a racial slur is to apologize to the person hurt by that word, and to IMMEDIATELY stop using that word. Don't center yourself. It's not about you.