I had so much fun with my little fashionista on the flea-market! While I scouted at one stand for women’s clothing, he scouted at another stand. I found some nice clothing and he got a few nice toys & a shopper bag along with it .
The little fashionista also wanted a necklace and found one exactly in the style he was looking for. I so, so love that he is so connected to what he values, feels, wants & needs! It’s something I try to treasure as much as I can, because it’s such a rare quality that most of us adults keep searching for a lifetime. Many of us are feeling enslaved by “should’s”, struggle to fully accept ourselves as we are and are searching to know what it is we really value, feel, want & need. .
Learned as children to judge ourselves, judge our feelings, values, wants and needs. We learned to stuff them away deep in ourselves, discarding them as unimportant or bad. Yet we all deeply long to be accepted, free from judgement and shame.
And we see what that self-acceptance looks like when we are holding our newborn son or daughter in our arms! Yet, we often feel like failing when we see this pure being. And we find ourselves struggling to give our children that what we can’t give ourselves: connection to our true values, feelings, wants & needs. .
My heart aches when I see that struggle. And it makes me more passionate to do my little share in this world and support parents in this journey; in connecting to their own values, feelings, wants & needs, so they can step away from self-judgement & guilt and move to self-acceptance. Because when parents know how to give this to themselves, they can give this to their children.
In the end, parents and I both want the same thing. We both want to see children live without self-judgement, without shame, truly connected to their values, feelings, wants & needs. To accept themselves and be in freedom the beautiful beings they are and shine their beauty into this world. .
And well.. we’re not perfect, but at least we’re trying as much as we can. And that already is a tremendous gift. .
#parenting #valuingyourself #selfacceptance