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Ladies & Gentlemen: Beware of the "temporary fix". .-
Sometimes when a person tries to leave an abusive relationship, the abuser will ask "What did I do wrong?" or "How can I make things better?"
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The abusive partner will then stop doing the things that upset you (or they'll start doing the things that you like), but only for a little while.
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Once you trust that he or she is trying to do right, you'll notice the person goes right back to their old ways. That is because the abuser never had any intention to change, the "temporary fix" was only to stop you from leaving them. .-
#domesticviolence #teendatingviolence #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #abuse #lovedoesnthurt #thatsnotlove #teens #boundaries #boybye #girlbye #standup #dvsurvivor #goals #relationshipgoals #speakout #takeastand #speakyourtruth #shareyourstory #showsupport #breakthesilence #endtheabuse


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When you find yourself feeling like your relationship is all about you doing whatever you have to do to make sure the other person is ok but it's not being reciprocated, it's time to evaluate your relationship.
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#domesticviolence #teendatingviolence #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #abuse #lovedoesnthurt #thatsnotlove #teens #boundaries #boybye #girlbye #standup #dvsurvivor #goals #relationshipgoals #speakout #takeastand #speakyourtruth #shareyourstory #showsupport #breakthesilence #endtheabuse


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#megasaleevent #itsatruestory
His Love Hurts is based on an emotional, whirlwind of a relationship in Jocelyn's life. Of course, the relationship starts blissful like many others with him appearing to be the ideal mate. Her knight in shining armor; a true gentleman or so she thought. Through phases of cheating, verbal abuse, and domestic violence Jocelyn finally realizes that her quest for love is almost fatal. She shares reflections throughout her tale of this rollercoaster ride of what she thought was love. #HisLoveHurts #Atlwriter #icantmakethisstuffup #lovedoesnthurt #iwrite #onthecomeup #iwontsettle #thebestisyettocome #atlantasown #blackgirlmagic #imanauthor #goodread #Amazon #createspace #mommypreneur #menread #womenread #motivated #inspire #workworkworkworkwork http://www.amazon.com/dp/B073SFKSS3


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ADMIN - #truthfultuesday This is me. I just deleted over two thousand pics in my phone. There’s still more to go, but I need a break. I’m not recovered, I’m not whole or strong. Its not always like this, I will giggle about something before dark today. But these moments are real. This is my vulnerable truth. Some are very disappointed in my inability to “move on” or “get over it” They are going to need to take their own advice here. I can’t always “put on a brave face” - this IS my brave face. It’s also my terrified face, and my hurt face, and my sad face. #truth #truthful #confession #recovery #ptsd #awareness #realtalk #stillhurts #thatsok #lovedoesnthurt #therapy #childsexualabuse #stopchildsexualabuse #breakthestigma #speakout #metoo #safe #helpeachother #yourenotalone #ibelieveyou


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#Repost @domesticviolenceuk with @get_repost
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UPDATE: A Big Thank You To Everyone Who Attended The #TawaChillOut Event Hosted By Our Advisory Board Member #AyoSonoiki . She Raised £450 & Donated Some Toiletries To Our Vouchers For Refuge Initiative #lovedoesnthurt #inspirehope #vouchersforrefugeinitiative


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#Repost @domesticviolenceuk with @get_repost
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UPDATE: A Big Thank You To Everyone Who Attended The #TawaChillOut Event Hosted By Our Advisory Board Member #AyoSonoiki . She Raised £450 & Donated Some Toiletries To Our Vouchers For Refuge Initiative #lovedoesnthurt #inspirehope #vouchersforrefugeinitiative


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Keep Climbing⛰️ #herbluewings


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UPDATE: A Big Thank You To Everyone Who Attended The Tawa ChillOut Event Hosted By Our Advisory Board Member Ayo Sonoiki . She Raised £450 & Donated Some Toiletries To Our Vouchers For Refuge Initiative #lovedoesnthurt #inspirehope #vouchersforrefugeinitiative


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#4️⃣DaysAway GOO POP UP SHOW 📆August 18th 📍243 N 63RD ST #StopDomesticViolence #LoveDoesntHurt


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Never allow a person to keep hurting you over and over!
#ImWorthMore #Sassy_Notes_78 #youdeservethebest #yourheartmatters #lovedoesnthurt #yourworthit


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#Repost @ncadv (@get_repost)
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Research shows that removing guns from domestic abusers saves lives. But often, state laws regarding firearm removal in cases of domestic violence are difficult to navigate and in some states non-existent. This creates obstacles for victims and survivors to get the protection they need.
Learn More about Disarm DV: www.disarmdv.org

#DomestiViolenceAwareness #SupportDomesticViolence #firearms #StopDomesticViolence #PhysicalAbuse #VerbalAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #PsychologicalAbuse #AbuseAgainstWomen #AbuseAgainstMen #Abuse #DVFact #DVFacts #DV #SpeakOut #LoveDoesntHurt #TizTheTime #YouKnew #TeamSupport #AllDayLong


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#Repost @ncadv (@get_repost)
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Immigrants in the US have the right to live life free of abuse. If you or someone you love is a victim of domestic violence and needs help, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by phone, TTY, or chat. http://ow.ly/uidw30jV9FI

#DomestiViolenceAwareness #SupportDomesticViolence #firearms #StopDomesticViolence #PhysicalAbuse #VerbalAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #PsychologicalAbuse #AbuseAgainstWomen #AbuseAgainstMen #Abuse #DVFact #DVFacts #DV #SpeakOut #LoveDoesntHurt #TizTheTime #YouKnew #TeamSupport #AllDayLong


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Ahhh o amor! Há quem diga que o amor dói... Para mim, o amor não deve doer. Mas se ele dói, é porque algo está precisando ser transformado. ~

Quando estamos com alguém, caminhamos juntos rumo ao desconhecido. Tem horas que um muda, outras, que o outro muda. É um constante desafio de acompanhar um ao outro. Ser testemunha da vida do outro.
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Já disse a música "Eu quero a sorte de um amor tranquilo." Será que morrer de amor e continuar vivendo remete a isso? Você já sentiu isso?
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É nesta vibe que eu te convido a participar do meu novo programa presencial, Terapia do Amor. Serão 8 encontros para as mulheres compartilharem e aprenderem mais sobre este tema. É como conversar com as melhores amigas, mas tudo sendo facilitado por uma profissional, e sendo compartilhado com mulheres que passam pela mesma situação.
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Tá namorando? Tá solteira? Tá divorciando? Tá com dificuldade com algum membro da família? Vem pra cá pra gente discutir tudo isso! Relacionamentos, amor e solitude...
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Iniciaremos na terça-feira que vem, 21/08, às 19h. Pra saber mais, me manda uma mensagem por aqui. Te espero!
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#amareseramado #oamornaodoi #lovedoesnthurt #amor #solitude #morrerdeamor #terapiadoamor


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When love is shown to you by people you know or you don't know, by people you have met or haven't met......Please, reciprocate by acknowledging, it goes a long way in the heart, that i know.
@amalbotanicals, the love you showed my page is profoundly appreciated💯 Thanks for taking out time to go through the posts and liked them all🙏
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#love #showsomelove #beloving #belovingandkind #lovedoesnthurt #portharcourtwomeninbusiness


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ADMIN - Like many survivors, I get a lot from dogs. Some types of therapy/support dogs don’t require special licenses. When I was a child, mine were make-believe. My imaginary wolf friends kept me company in the darkest times. Today my dogs are my ultimate sense of “safe”. Just knowing they are close by, is everything. I definitely want to hear about ALL of your dogs. The ways they help you heal, and feel protected. How do they make you smile? #dogs #therapydog #safe #ptsd #protection #love #survivor #childsexualabuse #talkaboutit #breakthestigma #metoo #nomeansno #stopchildsexualabuse #itsNOTok #lovedoesnthurt #ptsd #ptsdrecovery


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It’s alarming how society has really gotten inside our heads and has made us believe falsehoods about love, life, and expectations. Everything is so grand and dramatic in all the movies you see. It’s to the point now where the majority believe it isn’t love if there isn’t a hunt for it, some huge sacrifice, or pain. Sure, chemistry is really great... that’s also called lust and infatuation... but that fades and what remains is what counts. Real love is boring when compared to what all the movies and TV tell us. Love is not blind. All those popular quotes need to be debunked. I’ve decided I will start exposing them for the codependent, dramatic, unrealistic quotes, phrases, and fantasies they really are. We need to start understanding what “healthy” looks like and stop glamorizing dysfunction. One step at a time, kindreds. You can get there. #loveisnotblind #loveiskind #loveyourselffirst #changeyourbeliefs #codependentnomore #popularquotes #abuserecovery #dontbefooled #learnthedifference #lovedoesnthurt #loveisanaction #loveisrespect #narcissisticabusesurvivor #abusesurvivorsunite #findingjoyafternarcissisticabuse


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If you’ve got someone like this in your life, kick them out! #lovedoesnthurt


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They say a change is as good as a holiday so if ya cant take a holiday add some #ginger 🤣😂🤣 #redheadgirl @red.heads


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Didn't plan on taking a selfie today because let's be honest when we cry and our eyes are puffy, and we don't do our hair or makeup, and we are dealing with our deep emotions, and our healing, we tend to withdraw and hide and put on a happy face for others. This was shortly after counseling today. The tears from my past are still being released and the tears of joy that my life has completely transformed in just a year and absolutely transformed in the last 5 gives me such hope for continued growth and recovery. This week has been a big one for me and a difficult one. More suppressed events came up after some recent triggers and the time of year that I didn't even realize was causing me so much anxiety still. If we don't face our traumas, if we don't face our pain head on, we will try and rid it in any way that we can and find other ways to distract ourselves whether it be work, social media, busy with friends and family, not allowing ourselves to be alone with our thoughts and the list goes on. If you are committed to full recovery after abuse and healing from your past and working on forgiveness it takes work. But it's the most beautiful and divine experience to have these major shifts continue each time you make progress and to just celebrate YOU. Just here to remind you whatever you're facing right now, you are not alone. #herbluewings


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Show the world your light! Your vibe attracts your tribe! Thank you all for being part of this community! 🌟🦋 #herbluewings


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I was in shock as I looked at the therapist.
For the first time, I could see it clearly.
This time, for some reason, I could not turn to my old tricks: justifications, rationalizations, excuses.

I had to confront the fact that however unconsciously, I put myself in that situation.
I chose to marry him although I saw many red flags.

Yes, I hoped he was going to change...I hoped my love would turn things around... I hoped we were going to be happy... That was all I knew: to focus on his positive sides, to hope things would change, to have faith in his proclaimed love for me.

That was all I knew: “I am supposed to take care of him, to serve him, to help him, to be nice to him no matter how he treats me.” That moment, as I was holding my face sobbing, sitting across the therapist, was the beginning of an extended period of hating myself for the choices I had made.
That moment was the painful moment of confronting that I had internalized all those lies about myself, about relationships, about love.

I had internalized those messages from the day I was born.
Those messages were modeled for me.
Those messages were taught and embedded in me.

But I didn't know.
And I had to learn to forgive myself for not knowing what I thought I should.
You, too, internalized a lot of lies, my love.
Our families passed on many of them.
Our institutions keep hammering them.
Our culture normalizes and promotes them.

You know better now.
Forgive yourself.
And do better as you live the wild and precious life that is yours to live.

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#selfforgiveness #forgiveyourselffirst #selfhateisreal #internalizedoppression #internalizedmisogyny #emotionalfreedom #abusecycle #intergenerationaltrauma #domesticviolencesurvivor #freefromabuse #spiritualfeminist #traumahealing #relationshipaddiction #loveaddiction #selfcompassion #selflovecoach #divorcerecovery #chooseyourself #womenempowerment #womensliberation #setyourselffree #lovedoesnthurt #rewriteyourstory #befierce #radicalfeminism #mettameditation #lovingkindness #lovingkindnessmeditation #kundaliniwomen #dobetternexttime


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Real love, is absolutely beautiful. Doesn’t matter how many times my own heart has been broken, there’s nothing that could ever make me say ‘fuck love’... I am, Love. 🌻#ilovehard #loveispowerful #lovedoesnthurt #truelove #thatreallove #iamlove


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The kiddos at Camp Sunshine brighten up the world, even on a rainy day☀️
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Today @maoteenme and I had the pleasure of meeting children who have undergone Solid Organ Transplants. I can never stop smiling after I spend the afternoon with the kids here! There joy and strength is an inspiration to me♥️
#missmaine #campsunshine #wearemissamerica #spreadlove #allsmiles #shinebright #lovedoesnthurt #princessmoment #inspired


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This Saturday come out come out come out!!!! @ohh_na_naaaa has put together something very special to help get the message out about domestic violence. We have a special guest speaker @strickly_skillz with performances by @nwo.kudos @im_stripez @just1.ni @lifeasrizzle and myself. We will also be graced by @unserenityofficial ! Free entry, free food. Just come out and support Saturday August 18th from 5-7! #breakthesilence #stopdomesticviolence #lovedoesnthurt 💜


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Fantasy land #herbluewings


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Mondays, amirite?? Here’s some sparkly rainbow mind fun! #rainbowfy by me


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#LoveDoesntHurt


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#thisisatruestory
His Love Hurts is based on an emotional, whirlwind of a relationship in Jocelyn's life. Of course, the relationship starts blissful like many others with him appearing to be the ideal mate. Her knight in shining armor; a true gentleman or so she thought. Through phases of cheating, verbal abuse, and domestic violence Jocelyn finally realizes that her quest for love is almost fatal. She shares reflections throughout her tale of this rollercoaster ride of what she thought was love. #HisLoveHurts #Atlwriter #icantmakethisstuffup #lovedoesnthurt #iwrite #onthecomeup #iwontsettle #thebestisyettocome #atlantasown #blackgirlmagic #imanauthor #goodread #Amazon #createspace #mommypreneur #menread #womenread #motivated #inspire #workworkworkworkwork http://www.amazon.com/dp/B073SFKSS3


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Regrann from @naaahb - A narc will tell you that the person they're cheating with is flirting with them, when really it's the other way around. .
They may even tell you that the person they're cheating with is ugly, stupid, too fat, too skinny not their type, etc to convince you that they're not attracted to that person.
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He or she may also play on your ego by saying things like, "Why would I want her/him when I've got someone as fine as YOU?!" And if (in your opinion) the other person is not as attractive as you, that will seem to make perfect sense. But don't be so quick to fall for that. .
This is a mind game that narcs usually play to get you to ignore your intuition & put your mind at ease while they go out and cheat. .
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#teendatingviolence #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #abuse #lovedoesnthurt #thatsnotlove #teens #domesticviolence #boundaries #boybye #girlbye #standup #dvsurvivor #goals #relationshipgoals #speakout #takeastand #speakyourtruth #shareyourstory #showsupport #breakthesilence #endtheabuse - #regrann


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16 more sleeps until I am in Atlantic City for MISS AMERICA✨ ...and to answer that little boy’s question from yesterday, I may sleep with my crown on.
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#missmaine #wearemissamerica #sweetdreams #firstsleep #atlanticcity #ASHLEYlauren #TEAMfabulous #MaineGirlsRock #lovedoesnthurt #themainevent #goodnight


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Self care tool kit for those that aren’t feeling their best. #selflove #lovedoesnthurt #selfcare #compassion #rahma #muslimcoach


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💔 please save yourself beloved. You can’t save someone who is harming, disrespecting, abusing, or disregarding you. Make a decision to save yourself no matter what that person went through prior to you. Otherwise.....who’s saving you?

#gunshotsurvivor #survivordiaries #lovedoesnthurt #dateline #domesticviolence #domesticviolenceadvocate #domesticviolencesurvivor #domesticabuse #trauma #ptsd #singlemomstrong #strength 💜💪🏼


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An excerpt from Hello Voice #herbluewings


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In the mid-1990s, while living in California, Laura Cowan became trapped in an abusive polygamist marriage, along with two other women and 19 children, three of them her own.
Her husband, beat and starved Cowan and her children, even raping her in front of them. For part of those four years, they were locked in a garage.

During those years, she secretly took notes about the abuse and kept them with her. When she accompanied her husband to the post office in 1999, she surreptitiously slipped the notes to a postal worker, who called the police.

After earning her freedom, Cowan and her children spent more than a year living in battered women’s shelters before returning to her hometown of Cleveland in 2001. “I promised God when I was in that garage, when it was cold and wet and we were hungry, I said, “If you can get us out of this, I will dedicate my life to help others,’” Cowan said. “And he did. And I’m keeping my promise.” Over the last 13 years, Cowan has worked on behalf of domestic violence prevention. She volunteers for the Domestic Violence and Child Advocacy Center, and can be found at nearly every walk, vigil or fundraiser for the cause. She’s developed specialized domestic violence training for CMHA’s police force and is working on a curriculum called “Love Doesn’t Hurt” for local schools, colleges, churches and sororities.

On Cowan’s side is her gift for attracting media attention to the cause. Every time a domestic violence case hits the news, she’s at the vigil with a sign, ready to speak before cameras. She told her story to cable news personality Anderson Cooper, appears frequently on local TV and radio, and keeps a steady stream of speaking engagements even while working full-time at CMHA. #domesticviolence #childadvocacy #lovedoesnthurt


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Some thoughts on people leaving behind relationships that didn’t serve them ❤️ My favourite phrase when God takes away something from you is - God replaces it with something better. God is the all knowing , the all hearing, the all seeing. What does that tell you? God’s got your back. If they left you, that’s their loss. If you left them you know yourself best and what you need. People might talk , they might judge you, but remember at the end of the day no one is going to walk beside you 24/7 except for God. So forget about about what people will say and do something for yourself ❤️ #loveyourself #muslimcoach #muslim #lovedoesnthurt #islam #ummah #quotes #marriage #love #life #openyourheart #selflove #truth


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ADMIN - Children living in fear/trauma will often create a form of escapism, like an imaginary friend. I slept with the book on the left for years, & pretend wolf companions, who “protected” me. My bedtime protection now, is....the same? #solaceinchaos #ithappened #childsexualabuse #childhood #book #wolf #safe #itsNOTok #metoo #ibelieveyou #saysomething #awareness #heal #connect #makeitstop #beavoice #reachout #educate #dogs #therapydog #support #selfcare #mystory #children #lovedoesnthurt #innocent #theyneedus


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